When you come home from work, you are left alone with you. A heavy melancholy envelops you with a hard wadded cocoon. You catch yourself thinking that you are already talking aloud with the hosts of your favorite radio station, and the soulless TV has become a full member of the family ... About what is women's loneliness, how to deal with it and will be discussed below.
Loneliness is a form of awareness of oneself, as of all forgotten, torn off, abandoned, deprived. Before you try to fight with loneliness, you need to understand its root causes. Usually there are only three:
High expectations
Our standards very often do not match the standards of other people. The surrounding people seem to us more stupid, uninteresting, less spiritual. The search for the ideal person for communication can be delayed, and the threat for a lifetime to remain alone will only grow.
Decision:
Do not look for the perfect man, the perfect friend. There are no absolute ideals! Often an unconscious impeccable image is formed not from real life beliefs, but from one's own fantasies. The broken connection with the real world does not allow us to understand that in ordinary life these people may not be such good friends, interlocutors, lovers. Very soon you will find a lot of "minuses" in any person, which will invariably lead to the loss of any attraction. The best solution is to concentrate on the "pluses".
Fear of rejection, fear of communication
Like any fear, the fear of communication comes from a low self-esteem. You are afraid to communicate with people not to be rejected, because of the fear of being uninteresting. But if you think that you are unworthy of love, then you will not wait for it! Remember this.
Decision:
Communicate more. No matter how difficult and uninteresting at first. There's no point in sitting at home all the time! The coveted and only man is unlikely to appear suddenly "from where do not". You do not need to indulge the heroine of a famous bike who peeks under the bed for forty years, trying to find a man there, and after forty staged another, so that the chances of getting acquainted increase.
Now millions of people are getting to know the Internet. This, of course, is not always the key to success, because men there often seek one-time relationships. However, many people in the network express without fear their feelings, flirt and flirt. Choose! Do not hurry to hang around the neck of a handsome blonde with a profile photo only because he said that you are very even nothing.
Subconscious reluctance to communicate
Such people seem to like communication, but it quickly tires them and the interest is lost. The feeling of loneliness and various depressive states in this case arise because of the dissonance between their secret desires and the response of people. This type of loneliness is based not on the character, but on your personal characteristics. The fault is all your subconscious settings, which are difficult to correct.
Decision:
Try to love yourself! Live in harmony with your inner world. Yes, it is not easy. At first, we will have to stop seeing the world as it is perceived by old women on the bench, asking: "How is it that you are 30 and not married, without children?". Do auto-training, pay all your free time. Do your favorite thing, fill the day with light emotions. Watch your favorite movie, take a walk before going to bed, take a warm bath, read your favorite book, listen to music. To the person who radiates harmony, people always stretch. A friendly smile and your optimism will not leave others indifferent.