Psychologists noticed that parting with a loved one, and even more so a divorce, always go painfully. Especially for women. You blame yourself for not being able to save a relationship, for making you worry about your child. You can get out of this situation with a psychological trauma, or you can - spiritually matured and strengthened. How to forget the old love and survive the parting, depends only on us.
Take care of yourself
The very first advice is to focus on your work. If you have recently thought about changing the profession, then it's time to do it closely. As rarely as possible, arrange "self-examination sessions". Get away from heavy thoughts and forget about the divorce you will not succeed. But to reduce unpleasant thoughts to a minimum - quite within the forces. Ask for help from relatives, even if pride does not. Relatives and real friends know that during this period you are very hard, do not hide your emotions. Often go on a visit, invite guests to yourself. Even if you do not really want it, pleasant, unobtrusive, sweet communication - surely will do you good. Take care of health, both spiritual and physical. A lot of cares and household problems did not give the opportunity to pay attention to appearance? Right now! Forward!
Leave memories
Memories of dating, a first date, kisses, joint trips - this is what women often live after the divorce. Joy they do not bring, only a sense of loss and injustice. Will memories of past relationships help forget old love? So, do not let the memories keep your soul. Leave the past in the past. Remember: moral self-torture never brought anyone to the good, never, and did not bring relief to anyone. Also try not to delve into problems and not to be interested in the personal life of the ex-husband. Once and for all, close this page of your life!
Realize desires
The best way to heal a broken heart and survive a divorce is not to dwell on what happened and to continue living. It often happens that family life does not leave time for interesting activities, now you can catch up. Try to evaluate positively the new situation. Think about the fact that you have the time and the opportunity to realize long-standing desires without thinking about how the ex-husband will now take it. Surviving a divorce will help the release of your dreams - a sea cruise, a journey. Divorce is unpleasant, but this is not a death sentence, rather, it is a voucher to a new life!
What to say to a child
Your break is not just your emotions. It's hard for divorce and children. The task of parents is to explain to the child correctly why mom and dad will not live together and divorce. It is better, if everyone will take part in this conversation: you, the husband and the kid. Assure the child that the daddy's departure has nothing to do with the behavior of the baby (often the children accuse themselves of breaking parents), nothing in your relationship will change. At first, try to make sure that the father often visits the child.
New relationships
After the divorce, many women are in no hurry to build new relationships. They are afraid of the repetition of the situation of parting. And yet you should not avoid the male society. Whatever one may say, we feel really feminine only surrounded by men. Do not forget to look around - love can come unexpectedly!
Perceive the divorce as the beginning of a new life, in which you will surely be happy! At least it is positively worthwhile to perceive a difficult situation, if you intend to forever forget about old love and divorce. Despondency and depression will not help you in any way. But the belief that everything will improve and life will be better, will help to rise one more step higher.