After all, only at home, in the circle of our family, we feel really protected. We do sometimes impossible things for the sake of our loved ones. But, unfortunately, perfect relationships in the family are more rare. Often we see the average family relationship, under which the partners quarrel, find out the relationship.
Often behind all disassembly is a divorce. He comes suddenly, but it seems as though this was going on. It is especially difficult when a child is involved in this relationship with the will of fate. As parents did not pretend that everything goes as before, there is a discord in the relationship in any case. The main thing is that the parents after the divorce managed to keep respect for each other, which is extremely rare, because at that moment all the emotions are pouring out, and they did not try to persuade the child each in their own way.
In this situation, the child adopts the one-sided viewpoint of the person with whom the court finally decides to leave the child. A child may not know the whole truth for a long time and do not approve of the actions of the second partner. Although in divorce, as in any quarrel and disagreement, both are guilty, of course. To search for the reasons of divorce with the husband it is necessary also in itself. Often such family relations and lay the model of the future life in the future personality. After all, relations in the family play a very important role in the ability to build a child's relationship in the future with the opposite sex.
The children's brain, which is still "clean" from the various behavioral algorithms that we unconsciously use daily in our lives, very quickly and qualitatively "absorbs" not only the timbre of voice and the pace of speech, but what the father should say to his mother, and that my mother should do this reply. Remember how often we occasionally peek through such disputes in children's games, when one of the children proves that the mother should speak like this (that is, that's what his mother says in ordinary life). Children's psyche should be protected from such shocks. But is it just an adult during this period? How do they feel, playing sometimes indifference. After all, how many quarrels and divorces could be avoided only by moderating pride and having read and understood the opponent's thoughts. But, unfortunately, this, as practice shows, is almost impossible in our life.
Problems at work, traffic jams, queues, small everyday problems, self-pity. How often, because of our inattention and selfishness, we do not hear or see what is happening to our loved one. Word for word, as it often happens, because of the nonsense, which is very important, we kindle a quarrel. Saying nasty things to each other, it's very difficult to calm down and look at the situation, soberly assess it. In divorce, although two parties are involved, there are no winners. Usually, one person becomes the initiator, the reason can be cooling to a partner and meeting a new passion.
Yes, this unfortunately occurs. Both partners feel not the best way, if not to say in despair. After all, the one who is left automatically falls in love with the departing with a crazy love. He does not understand that this is the law of life: what we do not store, but lose crying. The object of adoration, which until recently was completely at the disposal, now belongs to another. Here, too, is jealousy, a sense of own insolvency, despair, shattered dreams of the future.
I think, and many will agree with me, divorce can be attributed to one of the most serious shocks not only of a single couple, but also of a person. The usual foundations collapse. Often undermined confidence in the opposite sex seriously for a long time ...
Divorce with her husband and family relationships, as well as playing tennis, you can not learn from someone else's experience.