Let's look into this situation and look for a way out of it. I can only tell you from my own experience, the way out of the situation when the husband does not want to work is the mutual interest of both spouses.
In our age, when a woman has become accustomed to proving her equality with a man, it is already difficult for anyone to surprise that she is beginning to take care not only of herself, but of her husband, charging herself with the responsibility for the material provision of the family. Most often, a husband who does not want to work is a type of men called gigolo, and, as a rule, degraded and drunk (for some reason in Russia it was so). It happens, so and so, that the wife is not at all attracted by domestic cares and troubles and the husband takes her place to the family.
If this state of affairs suits both spouses, then why do not they exchange roles. The husband will take care of children and housekeeping, and the wife will make a career in the office or at the production.
If this is the case in your situation, then why do not you exchange roles?
The husband will be the keeper of the hearth, and the wife, that is, you - the breadwinner. And most importantly it will suit you both.
If everything is wrong with you, and the husband brazenly does not want to work, looking for constant excuses and doing parasitism, drunkenness; then you need to take cardinal decisions.
First, make it clear for yourself that your husband is useless to saw and force to look for work from under the stick. Start to be engaged in itself favorite and children, having ceased to treat and cherish the husband. You have more important things to do with him. You need to build a career, advance in the service.
If your husband is not a fool at all, and has not lost the ability to think logically, then your behavior should make him think. Perhaps my husband, although he does not want to work, but he will have to make at least attempts to settle down and work for a while. Maybe your husband will really find his niche in the labor market and will receive, in addition to material wealth, also moral satisfaction. Remember, do not fight and do not spit against the wind, shouting and scandal with your husband that he does not want to work. Take care of your nerves. They are known to not recover. Your husband can not be re-educated, because he is an adult and is free to dispose of his life as he pleases.
When you reach the boiling point because your husband does not want to work and is not going to take any steps to meet you, then you have two choices:
- The first to look for another life partner, since your husband is a ridiculous misunderstanding and mistake.
- the second: perhaps you do not notice the attempts that your husband is making to correct the situation. You are exhausted with work and splash out on it your discontent from life.
Or maybe it's just convenient for him to live with you and at your expense. You have two choices either to continue to be responsible, or to break this cycle of events. Yes, and you get used to when someone takes care of yourself about the family, and if this someone, in this case, is you taking care of the family, then why should your husband get out of his skin. He has a good job in this life, you work, and he sits at home. Compare the facts, think. Decide. The choice is yours. Try to give your husband one last chance. You never know. Maybe then he will succeed, become a normal working person, the head of your family and the good father of your children.