Ahead is a dizzying romance or a non-binding relationship. Passion and problems, joys and sorrows, the undoubted influence of the relationship on the work process and its result (after all, we are not insensitive machines!).
All these "fruits" of casual attitudes or relations with not casual person after couple of months (a maximum - years) will be recollected very often. And almost always as an annoying mistake.
How does it happen that we have an intimate relationship in the workplace?
Laziness. Interest. Joint pastime. Curiosity "but what it is." Sympathy. Desire for warmth and understanding ...
No matter how hard the women and glossy journals and women's women's newspapers could be told that there should not be sex in the workplace - ladies still believe them for the time being. And at some point, inspired by love and the desire to be as close as possible to the one you liked - no longer an employee, but a man! - risk and finally arrange their intimate relationships in the workplace.
At work, we spend most of the time, and it is likely that it is there that we will meet our destiny, love, partner for future business ... This is not without reason being obtained so often. Hearing at the bus stop or in the hypermarket painfully familiar "Girl, let's get acquainted!", We try to get rid of the obsessive chevalier.
And at work everything is simple and clear, at least for the time being. Colleagues-men respectively look (well, not in the extended "workouts" go!), And we - also try to get better dressed, once again impose a fresh varnish or prefer shoes - sneakers.
And now, at work there are these smart, beautiful, neat "loneliness". And even if they do not start a romance, then they start intimate relationships in the workplace ...
A story from life
Alla, 32 years old, designer
I was not very prestigious, but in my own way very attractive work. But one day the chief jokingly said: "I'll bring you a peasant!". And He came - a pretty, blue-eyed brown-haired ... Dream of all youth ... He was elusively similar to some movie hero, and I could not restrain myself ...
First, it was very strange and inconvenient. I was delayed with one project, he came to my office and began to pester me. And this mixed feeling - on the one hand, I'm ready to say "yes", but on the other hand it hinders me that my workplace is next. My desk, computer, open program, unfinished cover ...
Very strong sense of irrelevance and stupidity. Another would take care at first, met in the evening with flowers, I would wake up in the morning with him. But this one did not invite him, as if limiting me to only a workplace. For him - I'm a pleasant casual partner. And how happy I was when he was transferred to another office next week!
Next, they are waiting for an action movie, comedy or a long, annoying melancholy with its tediousness. One wants to marry (or get married) - the second does not care. One started a new "passion" - the second, getting used to erotic attention, suffers from a lack of sex, affection and all that was.
And where are the unlucky grief-lovers to meet? If the intimate relations at the workplace occur regularly, then, most likely, they are forced to close in the room, stay after a day's work, huddle on the couch in the waiting room ...
Otherwise - they go out together for lunch, go on business trips or meet in the conference room ...
Such an intim is similar to a dinner in a fast food restaurant. Perhaps the feeling of hunger is satisfied, and even with interest, entertainment. But usually after this there comes a period of disappointment.
After all, if the passions are real - then they want more than those 5-10 minutes that are. And if "artificial" - then sooner or later one of the partners will get tired of this "props".
Of course, at first glance, intimate relationships in the workplace are attractive and very unusual. But the cons are still more:
- complex relationship with a colleague (or, God forbid, the boss)
- the fear that everyone will know (and this will be followed by harassment, mockery, alienation)
- sensation of instability (colleagues for such liberty are fired both, and the chiefs, having overslept, can get rid of subordinates)
- heightened alertness to both the lover and the whole team (they do not know whether it will give it away).
We add here that the attractiveness of a male colleague or boss is directly proportional to its inaccessibility, and we take into account that the extinct interest always causes irritation.
Therefore, if you can not look a person in the eye, demand compliance with job responsibilities and communicate with ease, if you as lovers disagree and dislike each other - do not start intimate relationships in the workplace.