Nevertheless, we will try to understand what influences relations in the best possible way, and what can be used by all who wish, without restriction.
To ensure that the relationship with a man is not just held, but could last forever, there are several critical factors. Today we will discuss only the most basic, among them: love, respect, patience and time. Let's consider each point in more detail.
Love
Paradoxical as it sounds, love does not always exist in love relationships. Many of us are trying to build relationships on the principle of "enduring - falling in love", but not all of this principle helps. The principle, voiced by Omar Khayyam: "It is better to be alone than with anyone," - sometimes leads us to happiness, rather than trying to establish contact with an unhappy man. Nature does not tolerate violence against oneself. And if we go against our own feelings, feelings and emotions, it can not last long. The body will fail, which can lead to nervousness, irritability and even some physical diseases.
Even more are doomed to fail to re-educate someone. "I dazzled him of what was" - that's the motto of women who are fighting for windmills in search of love. The best years of their lives they can spend on a completely unworthy man, not realizing that it is almost impossible to re-educate an adult person. Especially if he does not want to change.
So if you want everything to go well with men, believe in your heart. Look for your love in every possible way, and do not wait for the sea to weather. And for a better effect, analyze your typical ways of responding and family scenarios. This will help you not to fall in love with a problematic man. Of course, it is difficult to get rid of the opinion imposed by grandmothers, aunts and mothers that, for example, all men drink or change. But it is necessary to do this. And then your heart will open to a worthy man who will reverse the false stereotypes and opinions that have been learned from childhood, will give you faith in love.
Patience
Well, if there is love. However, one is not enough for it to last forever. Patience is needed even for couples who live together for love, and not for necessity.
Many married couples who have lived happily together for ten, twenty or more years, believe that the main secret of success in a loving relationship is mutual tolerance. And the specific methods of combating irritability are very simple and universal. The main thing is to understand that in other people, first of all, we are annoyed by the shortcomings that we have. Скупердяи carp to greed of spouses, even if it imaginary. Husbands-drones reproach their wives with laziness, even if they spin as if they were wound up. And forever late women like to tell their friends that their husband is also a slow and unessential person. Follow your behavior, keep a diary of annoyances and quarrels, and you will be surprised to find that the list of disadvantages of a loved one that irritates you almost completely coincides with the list of your own vices.
Another important quality that allows for patience is the ability to stop in anger. If you feel that you are boiling, go out into the street or into another room. And continue the argument after the first burst of emotion is settled. This seriously saves you nerves and avoids overly traumatic and protracted conflicts. If there is no way out, and the partner insists on continuing the discussion, use the principle of "seven seconds". Before speaking out sharply on an exciting issue, count to seven. Only then do you speak. A whirlwind of thoughts can be calmed down in just such a short time, and offensive unfair words will not fly off your tongue and will not torment your partner for all of his life with memories of them.
Respect
The secret of the success of love relationships is not limited only to the presence of love and patience. Another important quality that you need to develop in yourself, grooming and cherishing is respect for your partner.
A lack of respect provokes withdrawal into another reality - in computer games, alcohol or excessive hobby of a hobby. If the disrespect of the second half goes off scale, then this can be a serious reason for severing relations.
It is especially important to learn this knowledge from the wives of alcoholics. The most common reason for men to leave for alcohol is the disrespectful, indulgent and disparaging attitude of the spouse. That's why one and the same man can not drink with one wife, and starts sleeping with another. It turns out that a woman is quite capable of influencing the situation and provoking her husband to stop drinking. One has only to learn how to be his muse, to support him, to respect and encourage him in moments of weakness.
And in general it is important - to be able to see the person in your partner, to respect him and his wishes, to help him in realizing his aspirations. No wonder they say that behind every successful person is someone who loves. Faith and support from the parents, brother, sister or wife, the husband can become the basis of life success. And when a person is happy and found himself in this life, it is easier for him to build family relationships. That's why you should not humiliate a person, belittle his dignity and ability. It is important to believe in it and respect it as it is.
Time to communicate with each other
Many quite successful relationships fall apart only because loving each other spouses have no time for each other. If they see each other half an hour in the evening and in the morning, do not go to rest together, do not go on picnics, do not share impressions of life, then such a union is doomed to failure.
In the furious rhythm of modern life, it is difficult to find time for quality communication with each other. But it is absolutely necessary to do this. All the money you will not earn, so do not suffer from workaholism, or it may happen that your brilliant career will not be needed by anyone other than you.