In our view, the love is something magnificent, knocking down. This is what makes poetry poems, and artists draw masterpieces. The best books in the world are about love, the writers, of course, pay tribute to her. Many of us are love-romantic, passionate, dramatic, all-embracing. Others think that love will bring them peace, pacification. They represent, in the first place, the long and uninterrupted love of an elderly couple, who throughout her life understood each other, created comfort and gave happiness. The other of us are different, different, and there can be love.
We all expect from the love of different and at the same time the same. Different as much as love is. Equal to the extent in which each person waits for what he lacks.
Passion
For someone, love is passion, adventure, dizzying feelings. Such love is desired by people who, most likely, are tired of the grayness of life, its ordinary life. Such people want passions and adventures, and they create the idea of love on the basis of films, books, stories. They need a personality scent that will appreciate their personality. Perhaps, such people just need the strongest emotions or they have recently experienced a conflict, a tragedy. This category of people is not really ready for love. What is hidden behind passion is love and drama, which eventually fades away, unless it is fueled by other feelings. For such people, love is connected with conflicts, which "only pour oil on the fire." Some internal conflict pushes people to search for barriers, prohibitions of love. Such "love" lives due to illicit, tense situation, stress, drama. The reason for such a desire is some inner dissatisfaction, emptiness, an unresolved question or unwillingness to serious relations. Wishing such passionate love, a person can seek adrenaline or even a solution to their problems and issues.
Fear of being alone
Often, when we seek love, we actually need a strong man who will support us and save us from loneliness. Each of us feels to some degree lonely, misunderstood. The fear of being alone leads us in many situations. For some people - this is the main reason to seek love. A weak individuality, which suffers from the world around, is looking for support, support. Love is a mutual understanding, help to each other in difficult situations, mutual addition. A single person seeks love as a cure for all his problems, which will fill the inner void and help the person with his fear.
There is a category of people who simply can not be alone. For them, the whole life - finding a partner who will be next to them, will hide the shortcomings and shortcomings of their character. Such people resemble a "lost half", which can not function independently. Love really helps to gain self-confidence, helps solve many problems, supports people in difficult times, helps to understand many things. But this is not a panacea for problems that we are not able to solve ourselves.
Some people seek love as a means of resolving conflicts, problems, as an answer to obscure questions, forgetting that love is also a responsibility for another person and their actions. Love is a support and mutual understanding, and not a solution of the difficulties of one partner to another.
To be like a hero of ours
We read about love in books, watch a lot of films. Almost there is a theme of love, in which we certainly have a favorite hero or a hero. The desire to be like your ideal, to love as beautifully as in a book, contributes to our desire for love. We want to be involved in something beautiful and "high", we want to realize our fantasies. Information that nasokruzhaet, affects us to a greater or lesser extent, forms representations and installations. The characters of films or books for us are usually the desired scenario of our life. We want to embody this fantasy, to transfer to ourselves. These fantasies help us to gain self-confidence and self-assertion. This desire can be a signal that we need self-realization, we want to find ourselves and show abilities.
In fantasies we consider ourselves to be the main character and at the same time wish for love. Although in fact, it is not ready for it, because all attention is paid to the image, not the process. Lyubovtsie serves as the background, the reason, the complement, not to mention the partner, which is just needed for the script. In this case, the person is attracted to the image of a "loving hero" or vice versa, the desire to be loved, to be established. It can signal about self-doubt.
Love, what it is
Among all the above-mentioned reasons, it is worth mentioning the main thing - the search for love. There is an interesting sociological study, which shows the regularity of needs in different age groups. This research will take human life into decisive periods in which the most important dilemmas for this period are singled out, for example loneliness - identified by a group, obedience - individualism, being lonely or finding a partner. A multitude of research and experiments explains the person so important to love, not to be lonely, to find support in friends or his "half". Some philosophers argue that each of us is only a part, and in order to become "complete" we need a second half. Is this so? Everyone who loves can answer this question positively.
Love helps us to rethink our life, to change, to give up harmful habits for the sake of a loved one, to condescend and forgive sins, sometimes even betray our own principles and overstep pride. Love teaches caring for one's neighbor, teaches us empathy and the ability to understand the other person's polus. Love can help you find yourself and realize yourself, gives support and what we all want is happiness.