We have limited opportunities to change another person. First of all, the "experimental" is a separate person, with his own motives, convictions and thoughts. He and only he is responsible for his actions. But there is one tricky loophole that can change the environment. This is the power of thought, whose influence on close people is very high.
In this case, we are not talking about how to sing mantras or to affirm affirmations every day. There are literally a few spectacular techniques that can turn the world around you.
To think positively is how?
Imagine the situation: you have a rather expensive (and cost, and as a memory) family heirloom. And your child took it to play and even lost it. Can you, if you know the price of the great-grandmother's earrings, do not scold the little daughter?
Positive thinking often fails. In fact, it's hard to sit on a chair with a nail and convince yourself that you are feeling great. Discomfort and its consequence - discontent - the natural reactions of the body. This is protection from damage to the body, spirit or personality.
On the other hand, it is important for us to remain as adequate as possible in any situation. And this means that it is useless to yell at others and beat a chair against the wall, in which you did not notice an ever-memorable nail.
Positive thinking at its best is the ability to stop in time, breathe in more air, and, slowly exhaling, have time to analyze - what really drove you out.
Reasons we choose
To be angry with yourself or your husband, scold yourself or your child - we choose all this ourselves. Like the reasons for negative emotions. This manifests the power of thought and influence on people close to your actions.
Daily thoughts about yourself and about the world form a kind of "background", from which you yourself choose reactions and justifications. Why did the boss "hit on you" because you did the wrong job or because he had a difficult, hectic day?
If you know yourself - you will not take unnecessary responsibility, including for the mood of relatives, loved ones and the people around you as a whole.
The power of thought and self-esteem of others
We are all pleased to hear the praise in your address and it is unpleasant - comments. Quarrel, proving their case, is useless. Even if you do it for the best of reasons - that the other person becomes better and realizes his shortcomings.
On the contrary, if you emphasize what you like about another person - you get a fantastic result. On the one hand, relations with close people are literally strengthened by the influence of the power of thought. On the other hand, you have a better chance of being heard. Express your opinion gently, non-conflicting, and so that another person wants to be better for you - it's worth a lot!
Talk, talk and talk again
The power of thought affects not only close people. Of course, when you perceive your man to be courageous, he involuntarily (unconsciously) "pulls" up to your level of perception. Rich - begins to earn more. Call the child a clever, take it that way - he will start to think more.
But nevertheless, telepathy is very rare. You'll have to talk about what you want from a person. And moreover - to negotiate for mutual benefits, if what you impose on him, it is not so important for him.
Words and Thoughts
The word is at odds with the business - it's not just about a careless employee. Often, something unconscious forces us out of undoubtedly good thoughts to make a very emotionally colored message.
And then the following can happen: your message is superimposed on the perception of a person, and he makes a completely wrong conclusion.
A story from life
My husband called up with his mother - agreed that we look to their dacha. At the same time, he added: "The mother-in wants to see the garden!"
As her mother took it, one can only guess. Already at a party she took me aside and sadly sadly said: "Oh, and I do not have a garden ..."
And then I realized that she was waiting for us as gospriemku! But my husband did not mean it at all - but the fact that my parents have never seen a dacha of their new relatives ...
Julia, 23 years old
Therefore, whatever "best" thoughts you have in your head, try to express them with words as accurately and accurately as possible. After all, even unearthly beauty - the moonlit path on the water - can be described as a mate ...
Two ways - apply at the same time!
Only in this way, indirectly and directly, in two ways you can simultaneously influence people. And affirmations to this have a very indirect relationship, although they benefit.
Think of them - clever and beautiful women, the best in the world husbands and moms. And at the same time, do not forget that all changes begin with you.