Everyone knows that early marriages in our time are not particularly welcome. When close relatives try to persuade a couple in love to postpone their grandiose venture, trying to convey to their minds the essence of family everyday life.
Psychologists do not advise starting a family life before reaching the age of twenty. The fact is that an adult personality that has taken place, regardless of masculine or feminine gender, is drawn to coziness. While, the "immature" personality has always been attracted by freedom, not only in thought, but in action and life. And financial maturity is a serious matter.
In addition, young people who have long considered themselves to be adults, encountering the first romantic relationship, quite often confuse true love with passion. And to build a young family of one passion, as you know, is not enough. Soon after the wedding, rose-colored glasses are removed by daily routine: cooking, washing, cleaning. Combining with study or work. After a couple of months, seventeen-year-old wives and husbands, with a warm hope, recall the cozy parent's nest, the hikes in the night club and the abundance of free time. Early marriages very often end in divorce, yet at an early age it is difficult to realize the burden of family problems, which leads to frequent quarrels and divorce.
Many people think that it is necessary to marry and start a family at the age when both understand that they love each other. And when you get an education, make a career, get up on your feet, maybe not up to love at all. Yes, and the claims to his second half grow over the years or fall.
Of course the family, for each individual. Someone is already ready for a serious act by the age of eighteen and the maternal instinct like a hot geyser, and someone at the age of thirty behaves like a small child. According to psychologists, the most optimal age for marriage for a woman is 23-26, and for men after 25, when he has already disaccustomed, found a job and is firmly on his feet.
Probably not so important, how old you are, it is important to create a reliable family. They say that a strong family is now in fashion. In ancient times, a guy and a girl tried to change in order to get married right or get married. In our modern society much attention is paid to appearance. We try to look attractive enough, communicate a lot and if we are in communication, at least something suits, we choose this person. But the nature of the thing is serious and we understand it when the family life begins. And as you know, the character is brought up and it is clear that at twenty years he has not yet been perfected. This is one of the serious disadvantages of early marriage. But, despite such disadvantages, early marriages have their positive sides. To begin with, early family life forces the spouses to grow up quite quickly. Still flexible enough mentality, for the decision of difficulties. Physical ease for the birth of a child.
And maybe there is not any definitely age to create a family, however, as for love. And accordingly, love is different, different feelings and families are different.
Ah, if there was a formula for creating a happy family, in which it would be easy to substitute the age of the future husband and wife. And the calculations of this formula were not made through broken fates and lives. Perhaps, many problems could get rid of mankind and life would not be like unassembled puzzles.