Quarrel often provoke resentment, disrespect, insulting feelings of self-worth of a partner. This includes jealousy, reaching the pathology, distrust and persecution.
Due to the fact that the expected result does not always correspond to the real result, conflicts often arise. The same group includes sexual dissatisfaction, lack of tenderness, caring, and positive emotions in the family.
If people who marry are completely different, then they can already lay this conflict situation. They have experience before marriage, and certain attitudes and habits have already taken shape. And the attempt to combine such experience in one union can provoke conflict. The only way out in this situation is to understand the differences in habits and character. This will allow us to find prudent solutions.
Similar problems are solved in a consistent manner when both partners understand that this is an objective reality, not their own insolvency or shortcomings. In this case, grinding in a happy union will cause a dispute, not a quarrel. Disputes are completely permissible, but there is no need to quarrel.
And at this moment it is important to learn to distinguish between a dispute and a quarrel. The purpose of the dispute is to find a compromise, while arguing the arguments in favor of their position, there may also be various emotions, but the goal remains unchanged anyway.
In any case, such actions require the use of strong-willed efforts by which you will restrain your discontent, irritation. And in order to master your emotions, it takes time. But this is not a waste of time, but an investment in the prosperous future of the family.
The quarrels are to suppress the partner, and in any case leave a negative trace in the memory of your chosen one. And these are the places of stumbling that in the future can have a negative impact on your relationship.
The dispute implies a respectful attitude to the opponent's opinion and to his personality. However, when the dispute develops into a personal conflict, the task of which is to suppress the opinion and will of the opposite side, then, in case of victory, you yourself will lose.
A very common cause of a quarrel in a young family is the lack of romantic feelings in marriage. The husband has ceased to look after in the routine of family life. Losing the feeling of love, the lack of flirting between husband and wife, the lack of some romance between spouses - all this can affect the relationship.
The lack of skills for spending free time together, due to this monotonous evenings, and an initiativeless weekend.
The reason for a quarrel in the family may be an incorrect distribution of duties in the home, or in general their absence. There is no unified understanding of who and what can or should do. Unjustifiably overstated requirements to the partner.
Marriage is usually happy when both spouses are not afraid to openly express their feelings, experiences, specifically and clearly express their desires, share their joyful moments.
But often we succumb to our stereotypical behavior. And instead of constructive dialogue, where both partners want to find the best solution, tears appear, slamming the door, attacks of headache. Demonstrative noise in the kitchen, respectively, the husband perceives as dissatisfaction with the fact that he came later from work.
It is such an understatement that provokes a partner to think out what is possible and does not exist, but later it causes a conflict. But is not it easier to talk frankly, frankly about what's bothering, gently and painlessly for a partner? In this case, the cause of discontent will be known and you will already know what needs to be corrected.