What is the result of constant negative emotions?
Perhaps negative emotions are not so terrible? Perhaps these are the natural feelings inherent in us by nature itself? And get rid of them is not it? Unfortunately, the statistics say the opposite. From negative emotions, anger, jealousy, people lose their closest friends, families break up, problems at work. And how much evil and bitterness remains in the soul from unforgiving resentment, even if the relationship was saved. Sometimes we formally ask for forgiveness or accept someone's apology, but the chill on the heart still remains. Why is this happening?
The world in which we live is full of temptations. Perhaps the most important of them is the desire to lay the blame for our failures, material difficulties and lack of love for someone else. We are trying to seek happiness and prosperity outside ourselves, expecting that they will give us, cheer us up, make us happy. But those who think so, wait for resentment, disappointment, a sense of betrayal, condemnation of friends and displeasure with their actions. And this is because we forgot that we can look at the world through the eyes of love and trust, be magnanimous and noble.
We sometimes cling to a feeling of jealousy or resentment, cause a sense of guilt in our loved ones. And all because we subconsciously or consciously try to protect ourselves from pain and at the same time do not know other possibilities. The person lives and cherishes in memory some unpleasant episodes or words of the offender. And it does not even occur to him that negative thoughts constantly bring him back into the past, interfere with his plans for the future, deprive him of bright prospects, do not allow him to make room for a new happiness. A person does not understand that the resentment or jealousy that has remained in his soul triggers emotions through the evil circle - anger, fear, pain. And this is the direct path to unhealth, and at any age: a nervous tension is created, blood circulation and vascular tone change, the immune system is suppressed.
Do not be afraid of condemning others
Another reason that sometimes makes it difficult to forgive an offended person is fear. Or rather, the fear that, having forgiven someone who hurt us, we will be fools, and others will laugh at us. But we must remember that forgiveness is not an excuse for someone's behavior. Rather, it is a willingness to look with compassion at what has happened. After all, most often an insulting or insulting person is himself weak. Of course, you do not deserve an insult, and therefore must find the strength to free yourself from the chains of resentment.
Free yourself from negative emotions, anger, resentment and jealousy. Do not keep evil in the soul also because of these feelings, except for you, no one else suffers. Forgiveness in the soul is just as necessary, as it happens in the house you need a general cleaning. When any unnecessary trash is thrown out to make way for new, useful things. In our case - good feelings and joyful emotions.
Tell me about everything in the letters
So let's learn to forgive others and ourselves. How? And you try to look at what happened on the other side. What could you learn in this situation? What unexpected opportunities, abilities surfaced after someone betrayed or failed you? "No one knows what's good, what's bad," says Eastern wisdom. So, maybe, it is not necessary, stopping life, getting stuck in jealousy, resentment and pretension?
Relieve themselves from negative feelings very well help letters. Such unusual therapy is recommended by psychologists and is widely used in practice. Write a letter to yourself, starting with the statement of all that has accumulated. Do not be shy of words and feelings, but in no case do not send a letter and do not let anyone read it. Souls very subtly feel each other even from a distance. Trust life to help you in this beautiful work, she will find a way to convey information to the soul of the offender. Write further letters, in which you will find the strength to accept the behavior of another person, to agree with your anger and fear. In the second, third letter, your mood will be calmer and more equal. At some point you will find that you are free, that the past no longer depresses you. That resentment, pain, jealousy has passed. That you are free and open to new opportunities and relationships.
Be sincere with yourself. It's easier to free your soul from negative emotions, anger, resentment, jealousy. And move on. Just do not be surprised if people from the past suddenly call or write. Or, on the contrary, suddenly they will go far and long. Just life gives you a chance to build a relationship of new quality.