This list can not be enumerated until the end. In all families there are "their own" quarrels and quarrels. But for what reason is such a happy period of your life covered by a "cloud of discord"? How to maintain harmony in family life. Harmony "I + Husband = Kid = Love.
To begin with, we are all people, and any changes (even the most long-awaited and joyful ones) affect our psyche. We have a period of adaptation. A period that gives us the opportunity to get used to the new conditions of existence (in this case, the child born) to adapt to them. Your husband is unlikely to immediately, in one day, get used to the fact that you are no longer two, that you can no longer talk loudly and invite guests at any time of the day, you can not watch television at midnight, and lie still with you firmly at midnight, embracing. Never forget about it. This "time of habituation" takes place in all different ways for a long time and in different ways is difficult. In this case, a woman is always easier to adapt. She wore a crumb under her heart for nine months. She was already used to experiencing certain inconveniences and limiting herself in some way. And the man? To him, all the duties and inconveniences come only after the birth of the child. He has a circle of responsibilities, to which he must also get used. And at this moment Mom should be more tolerant of her husband. It is clear that you now too heavy - night feeding and motion sickness, and, as a consequence, lack of sleep. But everyone knows that the nervous system of men is much more fragile than that of women and make a discount on it.
Learn to distribute cases and responsibilities so that you do not suffer, but the husband does not suffer (yet he still needs to go to work to meet your needs). For example, if a crumb has begun to cry, calm it yourself. There are, of course, fathers who can easily cope with children's tears, but for the most part, men do not endure children's tears (rather because they understand their helplessness in eliminating the causes of crying). Taking on this pleasant duty, you will do an exorbitant service to both father and baby. You baby will not have to convince three hours "not to cry." You just give him a breast and all will fall asleep peacefully.
You used to iron your husband's clothes, cook fresh food every day, cleaned often? Now it just catastrophically lacks time. The husband is irritated. He is not used to his own cooking and just does not know how to iron the way you do. Do not worry. There is no need to swear and be nervous about such trifles. There is always a way out. For example, cook food not so much as you prepared earlier, but in more quantity. To be enough for a few days. Will only have to warm up (and this, your husband will do without any problems, through modern home appliances). Cleaning? Just! Do not throw everything around you - and do not have to clean up. As folk wisdom says: "It's not where they clean out, but where they do not litter." And you can wash the floors once a week. Do you have no time to pet? Husband to this lesson will be difficult to teach. Need a skill and patience, even to iron the sleeves of the shirt. But we seem to have forgotten about the grandmothers who are dnuyut and spend the night with us? Why do not they offer to help you at a time when you feed? I think that they will be happy to pat you with everything you just want (and they will also be delighted with what kind of tiny little sleeves they are on the ringlets of crumbs).
But! We must not forget that "too caring" "grandmothers also need to rest from you (and you from them). How would they say that you are tired of the guests and want to stay with your family, so much so that you do not offend? Invite her for a walk, take a walk together, let me guide the carriage, tell me how grateful you are for her help, and when it's time to go home, offer to go to the bus stop and stop. And remind that you will certainly be waiting for her on a visit the other day. So everyone will be satisfied with each other (and grandmother, and you, and your husband).
I can not help but touch on a subject like sex. This is an important aspect of any family relationship. Your husband will find it difficult to do without sex (and you, I think, too). But what about when a child sleeps next door? You lower your arms, turn your back and ... try to sleep. Stop! And what do you need a fantasy for? You have a great period for its application. Have you forgotten that sex is not tied to a bed? Fantasize - so you will achieve harmony in yourself and in the family.
And always remember that there is nothing more expensive than your family happiness. Do not let the idyll be debunked because of domestic turmoil and quarrels. Look for compromises. Anyway, but it is we who - women should "smooth out any corners.