In order to imbue with what a woman stands for or how to raise self-esteem, you must first know all the depths of your essence, in which we want to help you. We offer several stages that will certainly help you understand what you really are, and who will raise your self-esteem.
Introduction: self-assessment and self-expression.
According to psychologists from Harvard, these two concepts are similar in their meaning, differ significantly among themselves. The general hobby aimed at raising self-esteem, in fact, leads to completely opposite results. We expose ourselves for ourselves for all our defeats and victories, and our total result may be below average. Respect - the ability of a person to take exactly, both bad and good - does not depend on successes and failures. A woman with developed self-esteem loves herself for who she is. The best test for self-esteem is checking your own reaction to praise. You feel flattered, then you doubt yourself. Imagine that someone who is deeply respected by you praises your excellent knowledge of the multiplication table. It is unlikely that you will be delighted. And the more areas where you are at the height and without compliments, the less subject to criticism and the harder it is to hurt you. By the way, an interesting fact is that people with increased self-esteem, unlike owners of high self-esteem, are less likely to feel guilty, hurt and even stressed.
If you need to raise your self-esteem and understand your "I", listening to your desires, the next seven steps of training you will certainly help to do this.
Stage one: preparation.
Finish the sentence: "If I treated myself with great interest, then ...". Absolutely not thinking, absolutely spontaneously, you need to write six phrases (at least). This exercise is worth doing twice a day for three days. Then you need to read the resulting list. Thanks to this, you will be able to look at yourself from a completely different perspective, which remains, as a rule, unnoticed in everyday life. The principle is the following: in the evening, focusing on a certain setting, you force yourself to go to the goal throughout the day.
Phase two: severing bad relationships.
Here you can ask: "What kind of relationship are you talking about?". And it's about dealing with your inner critic, the one that always swears when you're doing something wrong in his opinion. And to those who tell you in front of the mirror: "I did not need to have breakfast, again to eat bread ...". Do you think that this inner voice you publish yourself? Not at all. After all, he turns to you for "you": "oh you, fat cow" or "lazy creature," and even you yourself even occasionally say: "What a smart girl I am today!". It's not true, as if you can not respect yourself until you learn the Japanese language, you can not lose weight, you can not buy an outfit from "Dior" for yourself. Do you love your girlfriend just because she speaks perfect Italian? Not at all. Well, if your gentleman pointed out your minuses, you would definitely part with him. So with the "internal judge" you need to do the same. Just you should not react to his comments, and he will understand that you have nothing to do with him.
Stage three: getting to know yourself closer.
Always to please someone, you try to put emphasis on your best qualities. But why do you hide them from yourself and not be proud of what you are? In order to raise your inner self, you need to learn how to bring a zest to your life. For example, in disputes with your friends, you do not need to be afraid to defend the point of view that no one supports except you. Or, after reading the article you liked in the magazine, do not rush to turn over the page, but ask yourself what you think about it.
Stage four: the expression of feelings through words.
To write down your thoughts on paper is a useful thing. Take the trouble to write a love letter for yourself. Point out what exactly makes you the most attractive and charming. You will certainly find more than a dozen positive moments. By the way, about the small shortcomings that make you unlike the others, you need to mention too. Just write about what you are, and not about what you are doing. Thanks to this exercise, it's easy to understand what a woman is worth, or rather, you yourself and turn your shortcomings into advantages.
Step five: give gifts.
That as gifts not presented with inspiration to herself can raise a self-esteem from a woman. The main thing is that these gifts should not be a consolation, but simply a joy. Start each day with the idea of what a pleasant surprise, you want to do today for yourself and how you can please yourself.
Stage six: a sense of excitement.
Your body yearns to be loved - for velvety skin or luxurious hair. But the extra centimeters and kilograms here do not play any role - and the point. Admire yourself and your body, when you do what you like: listen to your favorite music, you dance. Do it sensibly, feel the melody with your heart. Remember that as in sex, you first try to recognize your own body, and then through shared feelings you become closer to each other. Only this way, through knowing yourself and accepting your essence as it is, you will certainly raise your self-esteem and begin to respect yourself.
Seventh stage: you yourself.
Just live, love yourself seriously and for a long time, and get a great pleasure from it! Believe me, you are worth a lot, and therefore use it always. Just be able to properly assess your qualities and capabilities! Good luck!