And, of course, the army. Unfortunately, not everyone can avoid the fate of giving the year of his life for the benefit of his homeland. As far as this is good, it's still a controversial issue, but, nevertheless, the fact remains. "I do not know whether to wait for a guy from the army or not?" - this question is asked a huge number of girls, but not all are recognized aloud. This is not surprising, because not to wait for a loved one is a betrayal, which will condemn too many. But how to avoid conflicts and do the right thing?
If, after your boyfriend has received a summons, the question "do not know whether to wait for a guy from the army" or not "originated in my head, you need to sit down and think carefully. Of course, you can immediately start ardently declare that this is a great love and the year for you does not mean anything. But, if you are seventeen or eighteen years old, in fact, this year may mean too much.
For example, you go to university, start to make new acquaintances and it may happen that among new friends there will be someone who will be able to attract your attention. Can you resist? Of course, all girls are confident that their loved ones are unique, unique, most special and smartest.
But if we do not see a person for too long, the analysis of his actions and comparison begins involuntarily, especially if there is something to compare with. New people in our life make us think how much we really appreciate a loved one.
If with a guy who goes to the army, you had the first serious relationship, then there is nothing surprising in that he seems to you special and unique. But do not forget that life is just beginning, and maybe somewhere around the corner you are waiting for a real destiny, and this is just a good person who will become a pleasant memory. That's why, think and analyze yourself, simulate situations that may occur over the next year, not to do to a person, too painful.
If you understand that you still can not wait - tell me about it right away. Do not wait for the last day before departure, as this will look like a mockery. Talk to the young man and explain your point of view. Of course, most likely, he will be offended and break the relationship. Do not blame or be angry with him for this, because he is completely right. Over time, perhaps the guy will be able to forgive you and even once will thank you for your honesty. Still, the bitter truth is better than a sweet lie, as if many and many inhabitants of our planet were not arguing with this. Therefore, do not try to ask for forgiveness or persuade to remain friends. Just go away, letting a person survive their tragedy, forget about it and start a new life without you.
Most likely, you yourself will miss him for the first time, but if, soon, everything starts to forget, then be sure that you did the right thing and chose the least of all evils. But if, after analyzing all the possible variants of events and your feelings, you realized that you still love your boyfriend and are really ready to wait for him for such a long time - that means for you these relationships mean a lot and you sometimes have to sacrifice some things for them. By the way, about the victims.
If your boyfriend asks you not to go to places of entertainment for a year and get acquainted with new people, especially guys, think about it. Such statements - a direct indication that the guy does not trust you, is very jealous and wants to control your life. An adequate young man will never put such conditions. He perfectly understands that you remain a part of a society in which you need to function fully, so as not to become an outcast. Such statements, in the first place, indicate that the young man is weak and embittered. Realizing that in the army he will not be sweet, he wants to make your life gray, faceless and tiring. Loving people do not do that. Therefore, decide if you are ready to build further relationships with such a person. By the way, you should not give such promises yourself, if the guy does not ask.
It now seems to you that without it you will not be interested. In fact, man is a being that adapts. It will take a couple of months and you will get used to the relationship from a distance and remember that you can have fun without it. Therefore, it is better to immediately warn that you are not going to become a nun, to sit by the window and, sobbing day and night, you will expect him to return. You will think about it, remember, call at any convenient opportunity, but you will not refuse from your usual life. A loving person will understand everything.
Of course, the modern army is clearly not a holiday at the resort. As never before, your boyfriend will need help and support, especially in the first months. That's why, you should try to contact him as often as possible, to remind him that he is the best and strongest, that you are waiting for him and are proud of him. In addition, try to visit him as often as you are allowed temporary and financial opportunities. Be confident that meeting you will give the guy new strength and positive energy boost. If he serves in your city - go to him at any opportunity. Even five minutes with you is a holiday for the soldier. A year without a loved one is really very difficult. But, do not let yourself be sad and cry. You understand that all this will end, the young man will return, and life will again begin to flow in its turn.
Therefore, you just need to wait a little. Your boyfriend must see and hear a strong and calm girl, who, of course, is sad for him, but does not get depressed and does not talk about suicides. If you are just such a man, it will also be easier for a man to survive the harsh army routine and expectation of returning home. And to ask yourself every day in the style: "I do not know whether to wait for a guy from the army or not?" It's pointless, such thoughts will only push you to parting. What then can you bitterly regret ...