How to reconcile with your beloved?
It is very important to choose words for reconciliation. If you start with the words: "Let's make it up, but I still think that you're wrong," or "Well, enough to take offense, it's your own fault," then most likely you will start a second series of quarrels.
If you really want to make up, do not figure out who is right and who is to blame, even if you want to determine it. It is better to discuss this after the truce, when the emotional background becomes more favorable. An important point is that attention should be focused on the problem, not on personalities.
How to start reconciliation?
It is best to start with the truth, tell the loved one about your experiences and feelings: "Let's make it up, it's not so easy for me when we do not communicate" or "I do not want to quarrel with you". Do not reproach your young man in anything, but only tell him about your desires and feelings. Do not forget at the same time that you need to build your relationships, not "defeat" your partner.
When a loved one does not make contact
We are all different people. Each of us has his own behavior, his own character, everyone has the right to understanding and the mood in this case. If, for example, you have moved away from a quarrel and want to reconcile, but a loved one is not yet ready for this, then do not take his behavior as an insult. He just needs more time to evaluate this situation. You need to be more patient and wait.
Is it possible to prevent a quarrel?
If you feel that another quarrel is ripening again, and you do not need it at all, try to accept your man's point of view. And even if he is wrong, you will agree with him, so you will be able to avoid a quarrel. In the future you will return to discussing a particular issue when your loved one has a different mood. But, if there is nowhere to retreat, and the conversation has already begun, then speak in turn, let each other speak, this will help you be heard. If people start interrupting each other, "temperature" rises, then both people go on shouting, they hear only themselves, and do not hear each other.
When conflicts become frequent, negotiate with your loved one about the code word. For example, when you feel that the conversation is taking on increased speed, then one of you must pronounce a word that has been invented in advance. It can be anything: "giraffe", "tree", "house" and so on. This word will mean that you need to release steam and a little "cool down".
Another way to keep the relationship and calmly discuss is the understanding of integrity and unity. Explain to your partner that you are one together, and that the problem is outside of you. The main thing, when you are discussing be calm, you do not need to give the problem the opportunity to wedge in your whole and break it. Yield to each other, find a joint solution, and then the problem will leave you.
Frequent quarrels
Here you need to know the reason for the quarrel. They can be different, from unspoken resentment, mistrust, bad habits, the desire to remake each other and so on. But the main problem is when one partner does not agree with the opinion of the other. This is expressed in a heated argument or in painful silence. As a result, partners stop discussing the points that led to the quarrel. But this is not a solution to the problem, it only tends to distrust each other, accumulates resentment, and still everyone does everything in their own way. It is necessary to learn to solve problems in detail and calmly, then there will be no trace left of them. Understand the essence and at the root of its origin and in the very bud you need to destroy the problem.
Conflicts in the family is this the norm?
There is such a myth that in good, strong families do not conflict. But this does not happen, because every person has a point of view for everything. You just need to listen to your loved one, try to "try on" his feelings, hear each other, give an opportunity to speak out and come to some common denominator. Now we know how best to make peace with your loved one. It is important to learn how to yield to it. Then the unity of feminine feeling and masculine understanding will help to see this problem in a new way, and find an unexpected solution.