Of course, in the first place, it all depends on how you broke up. If the parting was over with scandal and resentment, then congratulations should be left with you. Judge for yourself, if you quit the guy, offending him with this, then what will the congratulation look like? There are a couple of options. The first - he will take it as a mockery, his mood will deteriorate, he will write you a fiery and far-off-the-beat speech and his whole holiday will simply be spoiled.
Option two - a young man will think that this means something and your feelings have not passed. In this case, he will again start looking for an opportunity to meet and establish relationships, and this you absolutely do not need.
Consider the opposite situation - the guy threw and insulted you. In this case, such a congratulation will be considered as humiliation. He will surely show it to all his friends, not forgetting sarcastically and saying that you, a naive fool in love, who still can not live without his royal majesty.
It's quite another thing when you parted, so to speak, amicably. Between you there was no quarrel and scandals. Simply, there came a time when you both realized that feelings were quenched and that there was simply no point in continuing the relationship. In such a situation, you can congratulate a young man on the holiday of his birth. But still try to make the congratulations sound sincere, but neutral. It is not necessary to use various petting and diminishing treatment, because a young man can interpret this wrongly and think that you have again flashed up feelings towards him.
If you know that a former guy has a very jealous girl who constantly reminds him of you, then congratulations should be forgotten. It's you and he understands that the past remains in the past, and such a greeting is a tribute to the person with whom you have blessed memories. His girlfriend just does not want to understand and realize this. Therefore, your ex-boyfriend is guaranteed: a spoiled birthday, a scandal, hysterics and broken dishes. And do not be naive to think that she will not notice SMS or a personal message in contact. These ladies check everything and everywhere. That's why just remember him on his birthday and mentally wish him well. People feel positive energy, even if they can not see or hear it.
Well, if you maintain friendly relations with a former young man, naturally, there can be no question about any issues. I think he will invite you to the celebration, and you will not only congratulate him, but also give an interesting gift. Of course, this option is the least popular, but, fortunately, there are also such couples who can realize that the friendship between them is higher than resentment, passion and misunderstanding.
But there are other cases. And one of them is the one when, after parting, the girl realizes that she still loves her former young man. How to deal with this situation? First, you need to always know if he has a new lady of heart and how he treats you. Whatever strong feelings were, you should never humiliate yourself and make yourself ridiculous. Of course, birthday is a kind and bright holiday, which can become a reason for reconciliation. But, it is necessary to know exactly whether this reconciliation is real in principle. Therefore, before using greeting as an excuse, find out through acquaintances how things stand. If he does not dislike you and has not found a woman with whom he is happy - you can take a chance.
In that case, your congratulations should be emotional enough, but not too intimate. You do not know if he still has any feelings. If they are not, then you'll just look ridiculous in front of your ex-boyfriend. Since you know him well, use some words and phrases that can catch him, remind you of the past, about some pleasant moments. In your congratulations be sincere, but do not face him, humble yourself and show that he is the best in the world and you are ready to do everything. Believe me, even in ordinary congratulatory words, you can easily catch such a subtext if you put it there. So try to contain your emotions, even if it's hard for you to do it. The guy should understand that you would like to resume communication with him, but you are not going to do everything possible and impossible for this. If you are also not indifferent to him, he will respond to your congratulations and he will start a conversation, and there everything depends on you. If there is at least a coal, it can be turned into a flame again.
And what if you threw the guy offended him, and now you realize that you were very wrong? In this situation, birthdays can indeed be used as an excuse for reconciliation. But in that case, it's better not to write, but to call. This, of course, is scary, because there is always the possibility that he will not pick up the phone. But still worth a try. If the guy still talks to you, congratulate him, put all the feelings into these words, and then ask for forgiveness, explain that you were wrong and you love him. Do not ask him about the meeting, press, just give food for thought. Let him understand what is really dear to you, and you have realized all your mistakes.
If he realizes that you really regret everything and he still has feelings, most likely you will be able to make up. On the day of birth, we all get a little kinder. Therefore, you have a chance to reach out to him, thanks to your sincere repentance.
But, if the guy has not picked up the phone, you, of course, can write to him, although, most likely, the effect will be exactly the same. In this case, you just have to come to terms with the fact that you lost it and you must continue to live, drawing conclusions from your mistakes. And whether it is necessary to try to repeatedly congratulate such an ex-boyfriend with a birthday, a New Year and other holidays, if he does not want to see you in his life? I think it's not worth it. Do not waste precious time on someone who does not want to share this time with you.