Wise
In order for your man to stop being "in your eyes" in your eyes, you must learn how to properly motivate him. You should never speak directly, point out its minuses and roll up scandals. Especially if you find out that things that annoy you have appeared in his character and behavior a lot of years ago and he lived with it perfectly, maybe even he liked it all. And now you came, like love it, what it is, and suddenly suddenly start to express your "fairy" about your second half. Therefore, if you want, for example, that a young man is tidier, you should not say that he looks like a pig and you are ashamed to appear with him in a decent society. This can lead either to a complete ignorance of your remarks, or to what the man will do to spite you. Therefore, you should just casually tell him about what you have the most beautiful and the best, but if the hair is also normal, the shirt is ironed, then it would simply be the king of parties. This kind of behavior often on guys is good and you can quite achieve positive results.
It is necessary not only to re-educate a man, but to name his attitude towards him. Remember that if you decide to still be a common man, in which you see shortcomings, then you need to learn to close your eyes to them. Otherwise, you simply can not be together and you will have to part. And if you are wondering what to do, if you can not accept the one you love, then what is it is, then parting is not an option for you. Therefore, every time you want to get angry at a guy for some unacceptable act for you, remember his good qualities. Think about what you love for it and notice how negative emotions will be receding to the second plan. Your young man is right about something, telling you that you fell in love with him just like that. This is the truth, just the more we love, the more we want the next to be a real man. That's just ideals do not exist, and the young man will not strive to become one. So do not try to fit it into the image that you create, and then it will be easier for you to treat its minuses.
Accept life
Often, women still can not understand and accept a man, because his life, hobbies, social circle and so on seem to be wrong and stupid. In this case, the woman should not be influenced by the man in general. Of course, if this does not apply to those cases when she sees that his surroundings and hobbies are detrimental to him and pull him to the bottom. In this case, with him you need to talk seriously, try to open your eyes to the situation. In no case do you need to tell him the facts and expect that the guy will believe you and immediately do it. It is necessary to give him unnecessary information, quietly push him to the right actions, create situations in which he sees that such a life for him is detrimental. And if a person is really a nettak, and all this is only a merit of the environment, then in the end he will understand himself and will change. Otherwise, you will have to think about the break.
But we still talk about situations where the life of a guy is quite normal, it is simply unacceptable for you. For example, a young man adores computer games in which you do not see the point, and his friends seem to you rude and vulgar, although he considers them ridiculous. In this case, many girls make one huge mistake - try to fall in love with his life. They spend hours learning a new game, about which the young man constantly speaks, always try to communicate with his friends and say that they are good. That's only in fact, games are a waste of time for them, and friends are brain-dead. And when the couple in love there is another quarrel, the girl does not forget to say that she tried so hard, learned for the guy to play his stupid games and communicate with close friends, and he did not appreciate it. To which the young man reasonably states that they never asked for such sacrifices. The fact is, dear ladies, that you should not try to carry away the life of a guy. You just have to understand it. And then you can receive yourself, and his life. Think for yourself, you also have hobbies, which many do not understand and do not share. And even for you it's creepy nonsense, but for hundreds of thousands of people, these games are the main hobby in life. Therefore, do not judge a young man only if your hobbies are not the same. Let him just do his favorite thing, and you his. The only thing that is worth organizing is to put everything to work simultaneously, then to have time for each other. In this case, you will not be annoyed by his hobbies and behavior, since you simply will not be bored.
The same goes for friends. A person can not like everything. And there is nothing abnormal if you can not fit into his company. But it is absolutely stupid and even unfeeling to accuse him of being friends with such people. Remember that if a person annoys us, then we subconsciously look for him only as bad and never notice good. Therefore, most likely, you put down about his friends is not quite the right opinion. If these people are friends, and friends for a long time, then they have something in common. In addition, men have completely different criteria for friendship. Often, implylevat how friends behave in the men's company, they like vulgar idaratnye jokes, they do not pay attention to rudeness. Therefore, if you are irritating the guy's society, just make contact with him to a minimum. But in no case reproach the guy with friends and do not forbid them to communicate with them. And when he goes to a company of friends, simply communicate with his. In this case, all will be satisfied and no one will become bored and annoyed.
Always remember that often it only seems to us that we can not accept a person as he is. In fact, we already accepted it when we fell in love. It's just that now we can not accept the fact that it does not correspond to the ideal qualities that we have set it. Therefore, you just need to fantasize less and live more in reality, then you will surely understand and accept your loved one.