You, probably, have long been buzzed by the ears of all your friends who, like you, have small children - you can not get out anywhere, they say, from this home routine, from diapers and diapers, and even in the house you need constant cleanliness you should not forget about your husband. In those short moments when the baby finally falls asleep, you frantically try to cook something, get out a little. And usually time for himself does not remain.
Of course, with young children it's difficult - I think you knew about this initially and even tried to morally adjust yourself to all these troublesome hardships. Children - they are always in joy, but you need to learn how to properly treat the difficulties that accompany the appearance of the baby in the house. You need to be prepared for the fact that your life will slowly go to the background, it will eclipse the life of crumbs, which can not do anything on its own.
Situations in the family are different, some of them make it possible for the mother to be weaned from the child for a while, while others do not allow mothers of such liberties. As you already understood, I'm talking about who lives with you. For example, if yours does not work or works at home - you can easily shift to his shoulders at least some homework. Thus, you free up some time for yourself. After all, when the time comes and you are able to escape somewhere with your husband or girlfriends, you should look amazing, and not like a worn-out woman with no hair and make-up, with peeling varnish on her nails and with huge bruises under her eyes.
So, if you live with grandparents, then it will be easier for you in this regard. Of course, while the baby is still very young and you will be breastfed without lures, then you will not be able to leave your baby for a long time with your grandmother. A crumb at an early age, like nothing else, needs just maternal warmth and care. Therefore, a little patience - will come the time when, putting the malyavka to sleep for the night, you can dress nicely and break out with friends in the club or with your husband for a romantic evening in some restaurant. Yes, there, even just stroll through the night city under the pen with a pious - this is a great way to spend time! Still better than not going anywhere and sour in the mountain bottles and plates with pots.
If your husband does an excellent job with a baby and is very willing to spend time with him - then you can leave a crumb and for your beloved husband, why not, especially if it brings him great joy? Usually everyone says that leaving children to husbands is extremely dangerous - I do not believe in this theory. Of course, there are careless and scattered men, it's better not to sit with small children, but if you know that your husband is a responsible person who will not take his eyes off the child, why not take advantage of it? Leave them alone for a couple of hours and go with your friends in a cafe or just shopping. It's also a holiday!
For some reason, everyone believes that with the birth of a baby, the young mother must turn into a nanny robot, who is not interested in anything other than diapers and raspashonok. Of course, if we talk about the prioritization, then the health and comfort of the child from now on you will still be in the first place, but this does not mean that you should completely forget about yourself. Fatigue has the property of accumulating and then pouring out in irritation to others. First of all, the person closest to you-that is, to your husband-usually gets to you. And, as you yourself understand, this does not strengthen your marriage in the least. Therefore, you need to look for ways to relax and throw out the raging inside of passion.
If you have girlfriends with young children - generally excellent! When the kids grow up a little, you can make wonderful meetings! While the crumbs will be keenly studying each other, you, mummies, can perfectly chat and relax! It will only be necessary to ensure that children do not offend each other, because at an early age they do not yet understand how they should interact, what joint games they can come up with.
Surely in your city there are great entertainment centers for kids. This is a small amusement park for small children, where there is also a place for their parents. While the kids will be enthusiastically digging in balls and toys, you can drink coffee with a cake, get acquainted with other moms, show yourself, in the end.
Well, if the weather is excellent warm weather, then why not organize a campaign in the company of other mothers with young children? Take a couple of children's tents, a little food for themselves and for kids, toys. Necessarily - a cream from mosquitoes that then in a hurry not to run home red and swollen. You can even take your father and pail with meat and make a great shish-kebab!
As you can see, there are many ways to relax and get a sea of positive emotions, even if you have a small baby. At the birth of crumbs, life is not something that does not end - it is just beginning, you just need to find the time and energy to diversify it. Leisure - is an integral part of our life, regardless of life circumstances, you just need to understand that his organization should deal with you yourself.
Therefore, there are no situations when a child can not escape anywhere (although, perhaps, if either you or the baby are very sick and literally tied to the house - then, of course, things are changing, but here you can find a way out, you just have to consult a doctor ). Most often we are dealing with laziness and the fact that the young mother justifies herself - they say, I have a small child at home, I do not have time for myself, life goes under the slope, youth passes. Our life, as well as our youth, is in our hands. So take it and manage it.