Myths around female loneliness

Women, who for certain reasons can not arrange their personal lives and are compelled to go through life alone, is not so little. The public was not too lazy to understand the causes of this phenomenon and even tried to explain it. But often all put forward versions are actually ridiculous conjectures and myths that are not true. Let's try (with the help of psychologists) to dispel the most common misconceptions about women's loneliness. Myth one: women are forced to live alone because of their unattractive appearance
At first glance, everything is obvious: if nature "joked" over the appearance of a lady, or she does not allow her to discern her beauty, hiding her under a tastelessly chosen wardrobe, the chances of pleasing the opposite sex tend to zero.

According to experts, the truth in these statements is present. However, appearance is not a determining factor. And an example of this is the mass of well-dressed, well-groomed, observant women who remain unmarried or do not have a stable partner. Unfortunately, they do not know or forgot that men are looking for not only beautiful ones, but also those with whom they will be comfortable. Therefore, the lady with the habits of the "snow queen" has very few chances to wait, at least until retirement, a fairy prince who is able to melt the ice of her soul.

In practice, very often such "superwomen" lack elementary skills of communication with the opposite sex. They spend all their resources (both physical and material) to ensure that their appearance corresponds to the ideal image that they have invented for themselves. Therefore, to create a relationship with a man they have no energy left at all, but in order to have them, it is necessary to work hard! In most cases, as a companion in life, a man will choose a girl with an unchanging appearance, but trying to give him what he wants, giving him warmth and comfort. And the unapproachable icy beauties, alas, remain at the "broken trough".

Myth Two: lack of economic skills
It is believed that one of the main tasks of the mother is to teach her daughter to cope with domestic chores. Frightening the young growing generation by the fact that sloppiness and mismanagement will scare away all potential suitors, grandmothers and mothers convince their heirs that the ability to cook, iron, keep a house clean and tidy is an indispensable condition for the appearance of future husbands on the horizon of ladies on extradition. In addition, this is also one of the ways to keep a man beside you.

However, psychologists say that a woman's economy is not the only secret of a well-established personal life. Not all men are the same. Cases when the "cook from God" or the handyman on all hands is overboard the family boat - a car and a small cart. And all because a man is not enough to have next to him such a woman-mistress, he is simply bored with her, so she would prefer her to a person without outstanding economic talents, but interesting with her personal characteristics. Therefore, next to the ability to keep your house clean and cozy, it's far from superfluous to be constantly working on yourself in terms of intellectual development, which should be understood not only reading women's magazines. After all, no one wants to turn from a beloved woman into a simple housekeeper, and most men do not want to see such metamorphosis even more ....

Myth three: bad character
Being a bitch is another way leading to loneliness. After all, there are few people who want to fight each day with a foolish and erratic person.

All right, but not really. In fact, to paraphrase a well-known song once, bitch is different ... Women who are distinguished by a nonsense, but who are able to take care of their partner and meet his requirements, have good chances to keep a man next to him for many years. If, however, the thoughts of the lady revolve only around her with a homeland, and the man becomes only an instrument through which she self-affirms and receives all kinds of benefits, then one can safely assume that such relations will soon cease.

Myth Four: in bed - "sleeping beauty"
Many representatives of the fair sex are convinced that for a man, first of all, the sexual dignity of a woman is important. But psychologists believe that sex is not a priority in relations, so there are not so many men. After all, in the course of time, the sexual life of even unskillful couples in this plan is being adjusted, the spouses are gaining experience and adjusting to the preferences of each other. If the same man has put an end to the relationship only because he is disappointed with having sex with his partner, is it possible to expect that the person with such priorities will become a worthy companion of life?

Myth five: dislike for yourself
Surely many people know the saying that, loving yourself, you will make others love yourself. However, one should not take it literally. Of course, you need to love and respect yourself, but to cross the line and become selfish, which does not care about the needs of others, yet it is not worth it, because adhering to this line of behavior is very easy to alienate potential suitors. Having met such a person, men prefer not to contact her, because they are sure that a woman, fixated on her own well-being, is not able to spend her feelings on someone else.

Myth Six: all worthy men are already engaged
One of the excuses for single women - all men fit for the "spouse" category have already been dismantled, and all those who remained for some reason are unworthy to wear this proud title ...

Of course, this is a rather dubious statement, because once all men were unmarried, so why did their choice fall on other women? And how to explain then the fact that some women in 50 years to find a man is not difficult, but for someone and at 25 years is an impossible task ... The advice of psychologists in this case is simple: the problem should be sought in yourself, and not in men , which surround you.

If you are alone, because all relationships with men after a while end with nothing, then the reasoning on why such a good and beautiful meet often "goats" is unlikely to help. Do not grieve over your bad karma, read the literature about the "crown of celibacy" and other heresies. Try to find the cause in yourself, change something in yourself, and perhaps this will be a turning point in your personal life.