"I'm not at that age ...". Every time you pronounce this phrase, you make your life poorer: for emotions, opportunities, pleasant events and successes. Fearing condemnation, slanting glance or failure, you give up your own desires. In fact, fate favors courageous: they receive recognition and admiration of those around them.
"I'm ugly / fat / stupid." Self-criticism is a laudable dignity, but not when it becomes self-deprecation. Negative motivation works only in vigorous American militants - in reality you just find the reasons for your own inaction. "Why go to the gym - I'm fat," "my face will not help any make-up," "the hair will not decorate my rare hair" - make up your own list of thoughts-"stick" and drive them away.
"I can not". You constantly feel that you are working poorly, educating children, communicating with your loved ones and friends - and this discontent accompanies you all your life. Yes, you know, ideal people do not exist - but it does not calm you. Your insecurity, multiplied by perfectionism, does not know the measure. Stop it. Exhale. And try to understand: you're after an ideal ghost that does not exist. Allow yourself to make mistakes - this is how knowledge, experience and wisdom are acquired.
"I can never ...". This phrase is the undisputed leader of negative thinking, which can effectively poison our existence. In the short sentence lies a powerful charge of negation, which kills any attempt to change one's own life for the better. Remember: any goal is achievable - only a matter of time, effort and perseverance.