Unfortunately, not all families have love and understanding. Sometimes people disagree and everyone starts life anew. But if the family has a child, there are certain difficulties. Worst of all, when the former husband does not like the child and does not want to communicate with him. How in this case do mothers not to injure a son or daughter?
In this situation, you need, first of all, to understand what is happening to the man. The former husband did not like the child initially, or did the relationship change after the divorce? If we are talking about the first case, then this is not surprising. Most likely, for the man initially the child was a burden, from which he finally got rid. It is better to forget about such a "dad", so as not to bring suffering to the child.
But how do you do it when a former person has been good to the baby and now has stopped? First of all, decide what exactly caused this behavior and only then decide how to get out of the situation.
New wife
The former husband started a new family. In this case, often a man starts to set up a new wife against the child. Such a woman may think that her husband will return to you if he is attached to a child. Of course, this behavior is illogical, but some women do not understand this and convince men that they do not owe anything to an ex-family other than alimony. In this case, do not join the lady in confrontation and tell the former person that she spoils his relationship with the child. We must behave calmly and in a balanced manner. Simply explain to the former husband that his son or daughter does not need his money, but his father's warmth and a firm hand. Give examples of stories when children in single-parent families suffered from complexes and fears. Ask the ex-husband as an adult and intelligent person not to transfer to your child your conflicts and disagreement. Emphasize that you personally do not need anything from him at all, but the child should have a father, to whom he is accustomed and to whom he hopes.
If the ex-husband does not react in any way to your words, you can go the other way - to forbid communication with the child, arguing that he traumatizes the baby with his cold attitude. If a man really loves a child, he will soon realize his mistake and cease to behave in this way.
Appearing of the stepfather
There may be another situation in which the ex-husband begins to avoid the child, because he has a new "dad". In this case, we are talking about men's complexes and personal grievances. If your child really fell in love with his stepfather, he can admire his father without a backward thought, not understanding how that fact of the appearance in his life of the son or daughter of a stranger's uncle is angered. In this case, remember that men are children in their own way. Therefore, talk to the ex-husband and explain to him that he is an indispensable person in the life of his child. And no matter how good a new uncle is, it is the father who always remains the closest and most loved. Also remind the former husband that children are attached to those who love them, but parents always remain in the first place. And when the dad starts to behave coldly, the baby is hurt, he sincerely does not understand what is happening to his father and what needs to be done so that he does not get angry.
Mother, father
But what to do when you know that the former husband does not like the child and just does not want to communicate with him. In this case, the only thing that remains - to distract the child from thinking about the Pope. The main thing is never to force and solicit a man to love your child. Unfortunately, the saying "You can not be forced to love" is suitable for this situation. So you need to try to forget about your ex-husband and do everything to make your son or daughter grow up without a sense of inferiority. In this case, the mother should be able to replace the father. If the baby will ask why his father does not like him, it's best to say that the father is just busy or he is very far away and can not meet. If you can perform well the functions of both parents, then eventually the baby is less and less likely to remember about the father. And when he grows up, he will understand that his father never needed him, because in his life there is such a wonderful mother as you.