Betrayal can be different. The husband has changed with an extraneous woman or God forbid, with a friend, a friend told all your secrets to strangers, a loved one has come out of trust. Your family did not show compassion and did not help when you started having problems. As you can see, the list can be continued indefinitely and not only a list of betrayals, but also a list of the consequences that await you in the future. This list can include: a decrease in self-esteem, the termination of relations, the loss of faith in relationships in general, excessive suspicion, negative thoughts, nervousness and depression. But there are several ways that you can cope with negative thoughts and possible stress if you are betrayed.
- Think. Take time to realize all that has happened and try to understand if it's worth saving the relationships that long ago gave a break and do not bring you pleasure. Try to learn all the details in order to draw conclusions about what led you to betrayal and why you deserve it. When all the thoughts in your head you lay out on the shelves, you will be easier to take the next step. In addition, collecting and collating all the facts will calm you, so you can think a little more clearly.
- Refer to the situation easier. You can be angry at the person who betrayed you as much as you want, but here's to break off anger on yourself - this is clearly overkill. If you want to start taking medications that will help you to forget and survive the tragedy or become suffering and be killed for weeks, you will not harm anyone but yourself.
- Let go. Approach with profit to the cause: do only what makes you feel better. Weep, walk a long time around the city, get in the car and go somewhere without a specific purpose. No matter how strange it all seemed, if it makes it easier for you, do it.
- Be bold. This is a very sad experience and at the same time hard to bear. But no matter how hard it was to realize that you were betrayed, unfortunately, it will have to be done. Betrayal is part of our life. If you make the right decisions and draw the appropriate conclusions, this will help you to better understand your friends, colleagues and colleagues in the future.
- Dignity. Pass the test with your head held high. If you are sure that you are right, do not make excuses to anyone. It is better to make people stop doubting your honest name.
- Sorry. What has passed, you can not return, and the resentment and anger that have accumulated inside, will corrode more and more every day. Therefore, no matter how hard it is for you, forgive. Sometimes forgiveness is the most terrible weapon for your enemies and ill-wishers.
- Set goals before you. Gather with strength and try to take out as much experience as possible from the situation. This will make you stronger mentally and spiritually. Reconsider your values and ask yourself new installations.
- Find inspiration. Watch your favorite movie with your favorite actors, which causes you the most pleasant emotions. Listen to music that will cheer you up, read useful books. Find something that will give you strength and make you move on without turning back.
- Be confident in yourself. If after betrayal you become less confident in yourself, find a way to bring everything back into place, and perhaps even improve your position. You can discover new qualities that you do not know. Stress, to your surprise, there are not only bad qualities.
- Think constructively. Think carefully about your future, about old and new relationships. Do you want to give a second attempt to people or events from the past, take a little rest or stop everything?
- Look at your fears in the face. Do risky deeds, start a new relationship, despite the fact that you are haunted by fears of past relationships. There is another way - to tell, about what you are afraid of friends, relatives or just acquaintances.
- Cooperation. At a time when you are experiencing betrayal and negative emotions have taken hold of your mind, try not to be alone with yourself. Talk more, talk with those you can trust, so it will be much easier for you.
- Optimism. Do all your daily tasks with optimism, be in a good mood. Always remind yourself that you are an optimist in life, if you suddenly forget about it.
- Do not take revenge. Revenge is not the best option. Surely it will not be worth the time and your strength. A correctly accepted decision that the offender is not worth your revenge is a sign of your maturity, and not cowardice at all, as you might think.
- Personal development. Focus on your self-development. Be engaged in self-education, sports or career.
- Do not hurt yourself. If you are in a bad mood every day, start using drugs or alcohol, abandon your work, stop taking care of yourself, you will only harm yourself, not your offender. You - the most important thing that you have, do not let anyone take it away from you.
- Do not feel sorry for yourself. Learn to deal well with manifestations of insecurity. Remember who you are and what you should do. Stop already feeling sorry for yourself. So you will not achieve anything. Yes, you did not do the best, but you must be stronger and find the strength to move on. Self-pity is a destructive feeling that will negatively affect your health.
- Often refer to intuition. It should guide you through life and help in choosing friends.
- Fall in love again. Yes, after the betrayal it is very difficult to start a new relationship, but remember that not everyone is like your boyfriend.
- Think about your future, in which you will certainly have all the best.
- Stop worrying. Focus on real things. Do not let bad thoughts take possession of you.
- Be patient. Betrayal will not leave you alone for long if you do not follow the advice in this article. Therefore, be tolerant, do not throw out your anger at others.
- Ask for help. If you are not sure that you can cope with emotions yourself, go to an appointment with a psychologist.
