It happens that the people we love suddenly lose their taste for life. They cease to be interested in anything, they can sit at home at all and not go anywhere except to work. Does the person need help in this case or should he deal with his own problems?
Pity it
Before rushing a person to the rescue, you need to figure out whether he really needs it. It happens that our close people, sadly to admit, simply play the role of a victim. It is imminent to close painfully in the room, as if in a cell, and for hours to philosophize on the meaninglessness of being. But if you try to offer such a person real ways to solve his problems, he will find heaps and reasons to do nothing. Therefore, if you know that a close person is like that, do not rush to help him at all. On the contrary, do not react to his behavior at all, you can even joke on him. Such people just need to be pitied. They do not want to change anything, shake things, look for ways out of the situation. On the contrary, they like to mourn their grief, pretending that they do not need pity, but in fact, to enjoy the way all around them run, try to help, cheer and tachalier. Therefore, if you decide to help such a person, it is better to talk with his close and warn that in any case you can not react to his passion and apathy. If everyone stops worrying about him, then eventually he will have to pull himself together, as he will understand that his suffering is not disturbed by anyone. And it will simply be uninteresting.
"I do not know what to do with this misfortune ..."
If your loved one is confronted with a problem and can not solve it, then try to help him with advice and action. Sometimes it happens that we lose interest in life, because a lot of problems are piling up, which is difficult to understand. If you suspect or know that the situation is the case, talk to your loved one. Initially, it can be mozhetotkazyvatsya, but if he is one of those people who go to contact, then early or late, tell everything. From a frank conversation he will feel better, but this is the beginning. You will need to make every effort to convince a person that life does not end and everything will be fine. You can recall any similar stories with a happy ending, convince, motivate, offer your solutions to problems. You must make sure that a person believes that he is not the most unlucky on the planet and everything can be resolved, you just need to shake yourself and believe in yourself. Remember that in one day nothing is solved and there will always be failures along the way. Above all, never leave a single person alone. You should to some extent control it, help, encourage and not let it get depressed. Then over time he will overcome all the difficulties and will be able to enjoy life again.
Vmestelevelo walk along the expanses
If your loved one is sad and moping, if you do not need a doctor, then your job is to make him interested in changing the habitual situation. It's easy to mope in four walls, but try podar for a walk on the mountains. So think of a cultural program for him that will be interesting and diverse. Just do not force a person to do something that he does not like. You need to choose those classes that are associated with him with something good, make you remember the fun times and so on. If he loves the sea, do not need to drag him to the mountains, and if he is a homebody, do not send a person to the nightclub. Just make sure that he often goes out "in people." Let me change the betting, make new acquaintances. So try to distract him from the routine and exciting new and unexplored. It is especially good if your close person is easy going up. Then you can always pull it out somewhere from somewhere. But even if this is not the case, change anything in his life: start a repair, take it to the dacha, and at least bring a bunch of new comedy series, check with him - he will laugh and be distracted. And the more life in the life, the less this life seems uninteresting.
"I'll heal you ..."
In our country, hikes to a psychologist are still nonsectical. Many people think that these stupid Americans can afford to throw out on such money, but we, normal people, have enough bottles and a friend who will listen. Unfortunately, in some situations a friend, if he, of course, does not have a psychologist's diploma, does not always help. Therefore, if you see that the situation is deteriorating and all your attempts are irrelevant, then it is worthwhile to offer a loved one a trip to the psychologist. Of course, you can run into grievances and inadequate reaction, even accusations that you consider him crazy. Here you should take yourself in hand and explain that a psychologist and a psychiatrist are cardinally opposite things. The psychologist receives psychology at the humanitarian university, and the psychiatrist - only in the medical institute. You can say that you yourself will go to the reception, although you certainly do not consider yourself a psychologist. But when a person is talked about, angry, literally raging, you should not insist. Instead of helping you, you will finally assure him that he is a nothing and a lifeless, so what is in it interest. Although, on the other hand, the situation may deteriorate, but then you can not help anything without his consent.
I do not want anything!
Before that, we talked about situations where a person is not interested in life, but wants to get at least some help. But is it worth it to propose and impose it in the case when we are openly told that they do not want anything? In this case, you never need to put pressure on a person. If he openly declared that his life is uninteresting and he does not want to search for a meaning in it, since he is comfortable with it, he does not need to convince, shout or cry. Your behavior will change nothing in a positive direction, on the contrary, it will lead to the fact that the person will simply close in himself. Therefore, instead of reading lectures, persuading, somewhere to drag, just stay close. Do not let him lose contact with colorful and interesting life. Tell the news, stories about the life experiences of your friends and acquaintances, sometimes give him information that can relate to his interests. But just do not press. If a person consciously chose this life and refused to help, then you will not be able to change something dramatically. He or he will think up himself that it is impossible to live this way and will change everything, or it will exist, as it exists.