Quite a controversial question arises among the mothers, whether the child should be accustomed to the hands. Some argue that it is impossible, as it will get used to and then there will be no possibility for the mother to go away somewhere. Other women argue that the crumb needs to be petted, so you can not deny it. Consider whether a child should be accustomed to the hands.
When a child needs most to be taken more often
Almost everyone knows that from birth the child has different needs. And he expresses it in the form of anxiety or crying. But you need to know that the physiological need for nutrition, sleep and so on the baby's need is not limited. The child simply needs contact with the mother, namely physical contact, in order to feel the mother's smell and warmth. If there is no mother next to the baby, then he is very stressed. A stressful condition helps to weaken the nervous system and reduce immunity.
Even in the womb of the crumb felt the strongest contact with the mother and after birth he needs it. But the fact is that after birth he finds himself in an environment unfamiliar to him. He has not yet managed to adapt to the new world and is experiencing stress. Therefore, to accustom the baby immediately after birth is not only possible, but also necessary.
Months to two after birth, the baby should be as much as possible in contact with parents, spend a lot of time on their hands, lie side by side with them on the bed, breast-feed or from a bottle of parental hands. He already perfectly distinguishes the voices of people close to him. Feeling your warmth, calmly falls asleep.
How to gradually wean the child out of hand
When the baby is about three months, you need to think about how to disaccustom him from such close contact, so as not to harm his nervous system. After the older the child becomes, the more he gets used to such a close connection, since he does not represent another existence. But we must begin to wean him with care and gradually. As often as possible, you need to leave your baby alone for a short period of time, but not in the next room, but near you. At the same time, you need to continue to communicate with him, talk, hold hands, and stroke. Gradually, this time needs to be increased. The main thing is that the baby gradually adapts to another way of communicating with parents.
Already to three months of life the child sleeps a longer time. But in his spare time from sleep, he knows the environment surrounding him, carefully watching everything. And it's very easy to do in the hands of parents. Therefore, to deprive such an opportunity his child is harmful. It is necessary to wear it in such moments on hands, but not always, sometimes it can be left for a while, but a little further from itself. It is good to give him toys so that he will concentrate his attention on them.
But if you put the crumbs of one and yet he "grunts" with displeasure or begins to cry, then take him in your arms at once. If you do not pay any attention to children's crying, then in the subconsciousness the child is left with the fear of remaining alone. If you do everything right, then by the age of 4-6 your baby will be able to stay alone for quite some time, and you will have more free time, which you can devote to other things or yourself.
Is it worth it to accustom your kid to your hands for a long time? The unequivocal answer is no. If parents will carry their child constantly on their hands, then by the age of 10 months it will be very difficult to do this. The fact is that at this age children already understand many things. They are at every opportunity, if you leave them alone, they will begin to demand their own. At the same time they begin to cry, and sometimes even make hysterics, because they alone are not used to. Hysterics, in turn, are very harmful to the mental state of the child. Therefore, it is possible to accustom the child to the hands during a certain period of his life. It is also important in time, when the baby is not too demanding, it is gradually weaned from the hands, because then it will be very difficult.