Kindergarten - a new life without a mother
Three-year-old does not feel a special need for games with peers, but does not imagine a life without a mother. Therefore, a child who starts to go to kindergarten, instead of playing, singing and drawing, fussing, crying, naughty and even sick. What to do in this case?
Make it easier to part
It's best to say goodbye to the locker room. Help the child to change clothes, gently hug him, and then take a decisive step out of the kindergarten. Keep calm. Remember that your insecurities, sad face and too strong embraces can scare the baby. To the question: "Mommy, when will you come?" - do not say abstractly: "After work." Use words that are understandable to the child, for example: "I'll come when you eat your snack." Keep your word and do not be late.
Let him survive this
In the early days the kid is overwhelmed with new information. He learns the names of educators, friends, must remember where his locker and toilet are. This is a stressful situation. Therefore, these days do not drag the baby to the shops and do not force to clean the room. Let him rest.
Do not make him eat
In a stressful situation, the baby's appetite can get worse. In addition, it takes some time to get used to new tastes and smells. If the teacher informs you that your child has not touched dinner again, do not scold him for it. Instead, it will be enough to feed him at home with a nutritious and healthy dinner.
Plan the weekend
The kid is just getting used to the new regime of the day. It is important that the weekend is not violated. So do not let him lie in bed until noon. When preparing a family dinner, stick to the kindergarten schedule. Spending time with the child, remember the games that he learned in the kindergarten. For the first time, first-weeks have been carefully watching each other and comparing their knowledge. If someone else thinks faster or reads without errors, the child starts to doubt: "Maybe I'm the worst?" And the school ceases to be attractive for him. What should I do in such a situation?
Minimize stress
A newly-minted student can easily forget that he was asked to go home or, what should be brought the next day. All the fault is a lot of impressions. Therefore, instead of reproaching the child for forgetfulness, ask him about the homework before you leave the school, for example, in the locker room. If you forget, he can ask classmates. Check the contents of the knapsack for the first weeks. But do it occasionally, so that the child feels his full responsibility for such an important matter. Help him to do the lessons, but gradually limit his role to just checking.
Get used to school together
Instead of tormenting the teacher with questions about how the day of your first-graders passed, find out about it from him. Talk about everything that happened at school. Not only about lessons. Do not ignore the complaint of the baby, especially if the child does not understand the teacher, complains of rudeness or injustice.
Do not overload the child.
Despite the fact that now he has more business, do not release the child from old duties, for example, feeding fish or carrying out garbage. Also do not aspire to additional loads. Already walking to school requires the mobilization of a small person. If we add English, Karate and a circle of informatics to this, the student is overloaded. He should have time for himself and for his favorite pursuits, which do not require special concentration or activity.
Let him play
Do not expect a seven-year-old to abandon your favorite toys and become a small scientist. Do not force the child to remove toys to make room for textbooks. It may turn out that he will re-open something that ceased to interest him 2-3 years ago. Do not let this happen. Let's put your favorite doll to bed and build castles from cubes. Make a child company in these classes, and you will have the opportunity to talk about the school. Do not judge him with the words: "You're already too big ...", "At your age ...". Thirteen-year-olds almost always have complexes, boys and girls at this age are easily edgy. In addition, it is difficult for them to inspire or impose someone's opinion, because they feel already grown up. But at any cost they seek recognition from their comrades. All this can obscure the goal at the given stage of life - study.
To start - a partnership agreement
Even if the teenager is well organized and has so far mastered his studies, give him more attention when he begins to study in high school. Ask him to share with you doubts - no matter if they concern the requirements of teachers, the behavior of friends or other things. At the same time, reassure him that you will not already control him as much as you do in elementary school. The teenager will feel more responsible for what he does.
Keep in touch with the school
To avoid surprises, more often look in the diary. It's not just about assessments, but about the information from the teacher. Sign under every remark that he wants to bring to your attention, so that it does not seem that you neglect them. Then the teacher will be sure that you are interested in the success of your child. Attend all parent meetings. Try not to criticize the former teachers. Instead of saying: "I know that the child has problems with geometry, because the old mathematician did not like him," ask how you can catch up on the backlog in the subject.
Demonstrate the advantages
If a child in high school changes school - this is a good opportunity to get rid of unnecessary ballast, for example from the reputation of a troika, who in the old school pursued him from class to class. However, do not deceive the teenager, do not convince that all problems will disappear by themselves, without his participation and without much difficulty. Simply explain that it is easier to start from a clean slate and easier to correct errors. Let him write down the problems that arose earlier. Maybe the reason is not in the absence of abilities and not in laziness, but in the wrong planning of time? Perhaps you just need a clear daily routine.
Support it
When you hear from your son or daughter a sad and desperate: "No one is friends with me," do not rush to panic. Perhaps the word "nobody" means a couple of specific classmates - strong personalities trying to establish their order in the classroom. Tell us that in this way people tend to stand out and attract attention and that eventually it will pass. Explain that there are many other children around who are worth making friends with!