1. At work everything changed, what to do?
The main difficulty for a woman who goes out of maternity leave is waiting, because she goes back to where she once left. And the woman expects that when she comes back, everything will be as before, even if earlier it was not so good already.
For the time that the woman held in the decree, the functional duties, working conditions update, the team is able to update, and the atmosphere in the team. And then a woman can face a surprise, which can seriously knock her out of balance.
To be ready, and know what you can expect, before you leave maternity leave, look what has changed for your absence, look where you're going. In military tactics, this is called reconnaissance on the spot, when it is necessary to evaluate the terrain, to make it a characteristic. And in this case it is justified on all 100%.
Talk to your colleagues, find out how your work is expected at work, how many new people have appeared at work, what working conditions, what events occurred during your absence. Find colleagues who could support you. Let them introduce you to the course, help you and introduce you to new employees that you do not yet know.
2. How should you prepare for the problems?
Knowing what awaits you at work, you need to prepare for the problems that you have to face. Write to yourself on the sheet, the difficulties that may arise at work, for example:
- lack of skills that you need for work,
- ignorance of new colleagues and so on.
Opposite each item, write those options that will help you cope with such a difficulty, or someone can help you with this. Plan a plan on how to solve problems and take care of it in advance. Socio-psychological training can help you, which will increase your self-esteem or refresher courses, which will refresh your skills and help in further work.
Remember everything you know how
Conduct, as it were a revision of all that you know and know. Take a sheet of paper, write on it everything that you know how to do in a professional, and other areas of work. Separately, write your strengths and all the strengths.
Let's do this exercise
In space, we will find a place that will designate the current, present situation when you exit the decree to work. We denote this place by some object. At some distance from him, behind, put another object, it indicates the past, when you 3 or 4 years ago went on maternity leave.
Ahead of the first place we will put another place that will signify your future and you in it in 4 years, and this place will also be designated by some object.
Let's rise to the place of the past and remember how you were an expert, how you felt yourself in a professional position, what skills you had, how you felt at that time.
Look at the past from the past, to your own doubts, anxiety, anxiety. Give advice to yourself today, how you can restore your old skills and adapt faster at work. Tell us what helped you at work, which pleased and inspired.
Return to the place that now stands for you. How are you feeling now? Look back at the past, and realize that you have changed, several years have passed and you have gained a new experience. What is your experience, what did you gain during this time, and what has changed during the decree?
Now stand in the place of the future and check the sensations. Who you are? How do you feel? What have you achieved over the years? You need to look at yourself real, and see what helped you to be at the place where you are now and what helped to adapt in the workplace. Tell us.
3. Looking for support
Since going to work is a stressful event, it is very important for a woman to provide support during this period. It should be obtained in the family, sharing with their own problems. It is important to understand what support you need right now. It is important for a woman to have an opportunity to share her feelings with her loved ones, to have an opportunity that relatives should not teach, how to behave, not point out mistakes, but on the contrary they say that everything will turn out well and that she is strong. Ask your husband to voice what you want to hear from him, or ask your husband to massage, hug you, or just listen to you, whatever you want to tell him.
4. What should be prepared for?
Whether a woman is ready or not ready to start her career, regardless of how she treats her work, for a woman returning to work is a stressful event, it will require a certain period of adaptation and mobilization of all her forces.
And the reason lies in the fact that going to work after a long break is:
Change of life scenery
After all, a woman before going to work for a long time spent at home. Now she will be in a strange, different situation.
Change of status
With the access to work, the status of a woman changes. It rises if the situation of a woman working and earning a good salary is higher than that of a housewife. He will go down if the subjective attitude towards the working woman is worse for her than for the woman her husband has, or if she did not want to go to work. But in any case, it will be a different status, the professional, social and economic ranks of a woman change.
The rhythm of life changes
Working with yourself entails a change in the rhythm of life. Now, the working schedule will be taken as a basis, and it will depend on the time for everyday non-working, caring for family members, taking care of the house, preparing dinner and the amount of free time. The change in the rhythm of life leads to changes in the work of the body and its rest, food and sleep.
Change of family roles
When a woman goes to work she performs her professional role, and she also performs the role of keeper of the hearth, mother and wife, but less often. Thus, there is a redistribution of responsibilities in this family and changing attitudes.
Separation from the child
Going to work is a period when the mother and child are separated from each other. The child becomes more independent, he is no longer as he needs a mother, and goes to a kindergarten. For the child and for the mother, the sweet and difficult period of confluence with each other ends, when the mother is rightfully talking about the child "we".
Therefore, it is important to remember and understand that for a woman to go to work is stress. You need to be aware of this fact, understand what is happening to you, then this will make it all easier to survive.
Sometimes a woman experiences stress - irritation, loss of strength, sadness, fatigue and does not understand what is happening to her, begins to feel guilty. It seems to her that these feelings are caused by loss of skills, inability to join the team, unwillingness to work. But in fact it is a reaction to stress. A woman needs to be given time so that she can switch to a new activity, and an adaptation takes place. The very understanding of this fact facilitates stress.
Using these tips and recommendations, a woman who has left the decree can quickly restore her professional skills and quickly join the work process.