But usually after that people either do not see at all, or are very rare. However, in this case, a completely logical question arises: Why can not a woman and a man remain friends, although they say so? The answer, as a rule, is "no", although somewhere in the depths of the soul everyone believes otherwise.
From the female point of view:
The whole reason in them, not in us: communicating with the girl, they simply can not treat her as a sexual object and can not help thinking about whether or not she will be able to drag her to bed, and if it does, then - tonight or the next day?
From the male point of view
The whole reason is in them, not in us: the girls can not understand our problems; all of them are able to talk exclusively about rags and gossip, but do not want to know about anything more or less serious.
All the guys only think about one thing.
Many girls sincerely believe that courtship and flirtation of men pursue a single target: as soon as possible to sleep with another passion. Therefore, according to the usual girl, there are two conclusions: firstly, guys can not be loyal and faithful friends if they value sex above warm friendly relations, that is, they are sufficiently limited by their nature, since satisfaction of innate instincts (food , sexual and so on) is much more important for them than "spiritual food". Male individuals often suffer from a severe inability to properly and objectively perceive the entire reality surrounding them and perceive an ordinary smile as an invitation to go to bed.
Another typical situation:
The girl wants to go somewhere to rest. Of course, she immediately starts calling all her friends to make her company on the road. However, as for evil, only the most unsuitable people, that is, guys, are free at this time. And if a girl takes a fellow traveler on a trip, then he will have to explain long enough that if they went together, this does not mean that they will spend all day exclusively engaged in sex. Even if earlier they had a love relationship.
But not only men are so incomprehensible. However, girls also sometimes want to consider the manifestation of a simple friendly participation as one of the methods of courtship and flirting. The problem of girls is also that they simply can not help flirting with the person who they liked (after all, we are trying to communicate with such people - in other words, it is unlikely that you can enjoy such communication), even if this person best friend. However, sometimes flirting ends exactly as the young ladies expect. The understanding between a guy and a girl is very important.
Can a girl understand a guy?
Undoubtedly, most of the girls are far from such purely masculine ways of spending time, like drinking beer (and other alcoholic beverages) and visiting football matches in the company of loyal friends. However, you can be sure that this does not indicate a woman's limitations at all! There are a lot of girls who watched all matches on football, and also will not refuse to drink, if there will be a "worthy occasion".
Girls in the men's company is a phenomenon, clearly, specific. And it's not so easy to feel comfortable in a society that consists exclusively of guys. No, it's not that one of the guys will doubt your level of intellectual development. It is said that it will not always be easy to maintain a conversation - since if you pretend to be a friend, then you will be treated as equals, and pleasant young men, so polite in a women's company, sometimes do not consider it necessary, as they say, "Filter the market." And if you want friendship, then you have to accept the imperfection of the guys. It's unlikely that you will be able to learn many new words, but you may be surprised at the skill with which the guys use these words, as well as the high frequency of their use.
Complaint about life or friendship?
Guys think that girls are always whining and always dissatisfied with something. Representatives of the stronger sex do not want to hear what exactly the girl tells them (of course, their ideal is the "blind deaf mute orphan"!). They do not want to listen to "whining", if you can sit well in the company of guys!
And the notorious "whining" is anything, and behind their reproaches, men forget that often they themselves are to blame for this. One of the possible explanations for this is the fear of the guys, that the girls encroach on their freedom, and many men fear this most. The acute danger of limiting so much beloved freedom, as most young men think, comes initially from the girl. Therefore, the guys are afraid that pretenders to the role of a friend will make the same claims.
Epilogue (or thoughts in the end)
So, can there be friendship between a guy and a girl? At first glance, it may seem, we complicate everything ourselves. Maybe our problems are due to the vastness of the choice, and not because of his absence, as they are accustomed to assert? We described to ourselves the image of a friend who belongs to the opposite sex, rewarded him with almost perfect features and do not want to admit that these representations are almost not real? Or is the difficulty that we all the time arrive in search of that ideal in which the features of their lover and friend are combined? And do not dare to admit to ourselves, who are we still looking for, believing that a best friend will become an excellent lover, and vice versa?