Bulgarian psychologists after a long study of the causes of the decay of families developed the following rules for women who want to have a good family:
1. Do not think that the profession, career and social prestige will replace your family and children . As hard as it is, you have to learn how to combine them. And do not forget that a woman should pay the necessary attention to her appearance, clothes and all other visible and invisible attributes of femininity.
2. A good family does not fall from the sky, does not get free , does not add up by itself. It, like any human creation, requires tremendous unremitting efforts, attention and skill. Moreover, much more from a woman than from a man.
3. In case of a quarrel, a quarrel, a discord, look for the guilt first of all in yourself, and only then in the husband . Other people's shortcomings are always more noticeable than their own ... No matter how upset or angry you are with your husband's act, do not rush to react, splash out your grievances. Wait, try to calm down. And only then act.
4. Try to constantly find positive traits in the nature and appearance of the husband and, if possible, tell him about them. Hearing about his virtues, he will strive to become better. Do not miss the opportunity to talk about how good you are with him. Praising self-esteem strengthens his attachment to you. At the same time, such confessions stimulate it, energize it. Understand that even in an intimate sphere, despite the romantic dreams of a perfect man, much depends on you.
5. Do not be displeased, gloomy, do not whimper , even though there is a reason for this. A sad wife very soon bores her husband . Believe that her husband has a lot of worries and his male problems. It is better to remember how yesterday you were trying to win his favor, chose him among all the other fans, and that you really are very suitable for each other.
6. If you (everything happens) suddenly arise with a colleague or another man flirting , do not let him grow into a deep passion. This will cause unnecessary suffering and bring nervousness into the family. A new object is unlikely to be better and more perfect. It would be possible to get to know him better, you would probably find in him much more serious shortcomings than her husband, to which you are already accustomed ...
7. Try to inspire the children with love and respect for their father. Do not compete with him, winning their love . Be generous. Respect his parents, regardless of their qualities or attitudes. He notices, even if he does not show it, your tolerance and nobility.
8. Do not take alone important decisions that are of vital importance to the family. Discuss them with your husband, and although, perhaps in the end, your proposal will be accepted, he will have a feeling that he participated in the decision that you value his opinion. Despite the leadership of men in society as a whole, in a family a man is often more complex than a woman ...
9. Do not let the will of jealousy , but do not go to the opposite extreme, showing indifference.
10. All of the foregoing does not mean that you should become a slave of the family , suppress your own dignity and give up a critical view of things. No way. Show them, demand the same from her husband, but always with tact, with a sense of proportion and, most importantly, with great love.