If you are lucky, and your baby is not afraid of loud sounds, trains, dogs, the fears associated with the night probably did not pass him by. Fear of loneliness, darkness, "bad" dreams is subject to many kids. How to save the child from night fears?
Child night fears
Where do they come from?
The disease is easier to prevent than cure it. This rule can be applied to the fears that arise in babies. Although fright is a protective natural reaction of the psyche, one can not imagine a child who does not fear anything and can not be faced with a situation where a child will feel fear and anxiety for a long time in a collision with something.
The causes of the appearance of fear can be stories told by peers, a cartoon or a film "on a given topic." Of course, it is not always possible to control the effect of this in adults. What can be done?
Try not to let other relatives in the presence of the child tell their nightmares and some experiences. The ground for the emergence of fears is given by adults, stories told by adults as instructive examples, but in fact intimidating the child. Of course, the child should know that you can not go out with a stranger or talk to him.
Do not invent
The child's imagination contributes to the occurrence of nightly fears in the child and it also helps to fight it. The child himself creates a frightening image. A rich imagination and imagination become a source of experiences and frightening images. Impressive children are impressed by different stories. If you suspected that the child was frightened by someone's story, tell him two fairy tales, and if a child was frightened by a story, then come up with a similar story with an interesting ending.
The kid can paint his fear, and then destroy the drawing. Let the child know that fear can be "conquered", if so get rid of it. If the child is afraid that terrible trolls crawl out from under the bed at night, do not try to dissuade him, do not tell him that they will not fit there. Just tell him that Dad has already put a magic fence and they can not get through it.
Do not make mistakes
Many adults do and say, something not very useful, so that the child gets rid of fears. Do not say "You're a big boy, but still afraid of the dark." This will not work, the child will only think that you do not want to understand it. Do not be ashamed and do not blame the baby for being afraid. Even if he is a "future man", this does not mean that at that moment he does not have the right to fear.
Not at all scary
You can create a "space" environment in an apartment with the help of fluorescent labels, place images of comets and stars on the ceiling and walls. Or choose together with the kid a night-light in the form of a dog, but such that he liked the baby, he will "protect" the child. You can buy a lamp in the form of the sun, it will even shine in the children's room even at night. During the day, try to pay more attention to your baby, the child wants you to stay with him, and the need for contact with an adult and the fear of loneliness speaks of a lack of communication with the child. And then in the evenings he will stop being afraid of "darkness" in the nursery.
If a child is tortured by terrible dreams, then the parents need to be patient. The children's psyche is content, unstable, they can remember these dream-frightening dreams for a long time and be afraid that they will reappear.
Try:
- To be next to the frightened child, to take him in his arms, to press him to himself.
- Calm down and wait until he falls asleep.
- Listen to the story that he was so frightened and divided fear with the child.
If such situations are involved, you need to write down the child's dreams and turn to a child psychologist.