Children of the weather at an early age

They were born to you one after another, so dear and so different. How to cope with different characters, preserving peace and harmony in the family? Children of the weather at an early age are the topic of the conversation for today.

It so happened that happiness has knocked on you twice. And at first it was a little scary, if you can do it, there are more joys anyway. Love, too. Therefore, you so easily treat sleepless nights and fatigue - they are more than compensated for communication with children. One will press his cheek, the other will gently whisper: "Mommy is mine." And you are ready to turn mountains for them. Although sometimes there is a desire to hide from their own kids where far away. Yes, you agree to disassemble the consequences of the pogrom, but then. Now you want to take a break and rest a little, but it does not work out. Sorcerers start a fight, and you just need to intervene. "When will it end?" - you exclaim in your hearts. You divide, divorce the rooms, agree. And you sigh with relief. This is the rally. However, what will happen next? Children grow up. Conflicts become more serious, and with all this you need to cope. Then the carapouses divide his mother's love, they fight for a toy, then find out who will get a bigger piece of the pie. Well, it's time to introduce the rules of peaceful coexistence in the family.

Who is older?

Sometimes it seems to you that the first-born, who is running around, speaks quite well and understands perfectly what can and can not be done, is already quite grown up. Well, I must behave accordingly. Remember: both children are small, both need your caress and tenderness.

To avoid jealousy, spend each of them separately at least 20 minutes a day. This is quite real. For example, when the second karapuz sleeps or is occupied by his father. It is equally important to organize joint games with kids.

Do not despair if at first it seems that they are not interested that they do not want to work together and do not understand how to do it. Be patient, try to enjoy the process yourself. And after 2-3 weeks you will be amazed, watching the amicable, enthusiastic chase of your crumbs.

We divide toys

"Give, you're older!" - Did you say something like that? How did the kids react? The first-born felt insulted, and the younger one was the winner, was not it? Separate the things of children and do not make them give their own toys to each other. Each of them should hear from you the phrase: "When your brother (sister) plays enough, we will ask him for a time machine for you." Calm down and pity the weeping applicant. But at the same time, tell the uncompromising master: "You are not to blame for the fact that he (she) was upset. You have the right to independently dispose of your cubes and little animals. "

In the answer for the younger

Of course, I want the older baby to look after the baby in your absence or give you a diaper, a pacifier, a bottle of water. But just like it to him? Children at an early age can not exercise adequate care for even younger children. And to claim this from them is at least naive.

Do not force the first-born to take care of the younger - it's only your duty. But you can ask for help. He all willingly fulfilled? Be sure to thank with all my heart. However, do not be ashamed and do not be offended if the kid does not want to help. And, please, when making a request, never say the phrase: "You are an adult". These words are permissible only when you praise the eldest: "Look, what an adult you are. You're already good at putting on your shoes and buttoning up your buttons. " Or: "Thank you for bringing me the overalls of my sister - you helped me a lot. Very adult. "

Without comparisons

For some reason, it is believed that comparing the children of the weather is just a great incentive for them to become better (smarter, more capable, obedient, more active). "Look, what a good girl. And you? .. "What is not the call for improvement? In fact, such statements cause the children pain, hurt their self-esteem, cause self-doubt. Quickly give them up!

Babies are encouraged to develop, first of all, approval and admiration. It is very important to praise and celebrate the manifestations of real abilities, good aspirations, real efforts, positive qualities. It may be a desire to understand something or learn something, the ability to patiently collect objects (a pyramid, a puzzle), the ability to recognize different shades of colors. No less important are curiosity, kindness and cheerful disposition. Each of your pogodkov has his own unique talents and a rich inner world. This is what is valuable in them. That's what makes them unique.

Be attentive to the kids - and you will certainly see the dignity inherent only to them. Call everything positive that you see in your children. So you help them realize the best in themselves and feel self-respect and confidence. And two persons who sense their own worth are unlikely to want to find out which of them is more important, more beloved, more talented. Without spending time on rivalry and jealousy, they will be able to teach a lot to each other. I noticed how quickly the youngest mastered the speech, began correctly to build sentences? And he is playing now, without demanding your constant presence. The elder is no longer angry when the baby accidentally breaks the tower from the designer, and waits patiently until the brother or sister climbs the stairs. And how he protects him, protects him! .. Yes, you have no special problems to create and maintain peace in the family. And proof of this - a real strong friendship between children at an early age.

Organize a joint pastime of your weather. Buy toys that are interesting to play together, not alone. Cubes, for example, one fit as a building material, the other - to study English words. It is no less important to take into account the interests of the foxes when choosing literature. One likes fairy tales, the other likes to listen to funny rhymes or stories about animals. Read tales, funny stories - they are relevant at any age. Encourage the children to communicate. Let them share their impressions of what they heard, express their emotions openly. And, of course, they love each other and you - their parents.