Let's walk along the street and discreetly look at different pictures of family life.
Painting the first. Parents walk in front of each other, and they almost do not look at each other and do not talk to each other. You might think that these two strangers are walking alongside. Everyone thinks about himself and does not seek to share his thoughts with his spouse. It seems that they do not even remember that behind them, at a distance of about thirty meters, is their child. A kid can sadly trail behind his parents or entertain himself as he can: pick up different garbage along the road, kick stones. Walking alone for him is familiar, it's also customary that parents are not up to him, and if he comes up to them with some even very exciting question, they will most likely yell at him and ask not to interfere.
Picture two. Parents also go separately in front of the child, but at the same time they rapidly find out the relationship between themselves, not being shy of passers-by, and even more so, of their own child. Often parents do not choose expressions in the manifestation of their negativity towards each other, their speech is filled with curses and obscenities. How does the baby react to such an ugly scene? He does not pay the slightest attention to his parents! This suggests that this behavior of the father and mother is absolutely habitual for him and at home he becomes a frequent witness to their quarrels. And parents are unaware that a child who lives in conditions of constant nervous tension, will suffer in more adult age from nervous breakdowns, unstable mood. If the gross attitude of the parents extends to the baby, then he can find a mass of complexes or become a "difficult" teenager in the future.
Painting the third. Mom drags home drunk father. Again the child is walking behind and nobody cares. In this situation, the kid knows that it is best to stay away from the parents consciously, since a drunken dad can hit. This situation speaks of a family unhappiness. Who knows, maybe it's just a small, visible part of a great family misfortune, from which the child suffers most.
Scene four. One of the parents goes separately, thinking about something of their own, completely ignoring the two parents walking together and the baby. In this case, one of the parents has better contact with the child, they can talk about something, laugh, but the other parent does not want to enter into their fun, which is also not very nice from the outside. The child does not even try to approach the second parent, since he knows perfectly well that he will not wait for anything good from him, except for the word: "leave me alone."
Painting the fifth. Mom, dad and baby are all holding hands together. They laugh, they discuss the film they just saw in the cinema, their appearance is joyful and happy. Dad can carry the baby on his shoulders, which brings the latter great joy. If there were a majority of such families, our society would not have known such a huge number of street children, juvenile hooligans and criminals and simply unfortunate orphanage children.
Have you noticed in any description of your family case? Then know, changes in your family depend only on yourself and the happiness of children is only in your hands. It is not tiresome to strive to be the head of the family, subordinating everyone and everything to himself. We need to find points of mutual understanding with all members. The struggle for power in the family is inappropriate, even the slightest quarrel between parents can inflict great harm on the vulnerable psyche of the baby.
Love your family and approach with all responsibility to the upbringing of your child. May peace, love and understanding prevail in your family!