Unfortunately, reality very often diverges substantially from their subjective views and from where the troubles that have arisen come not from the invited guest come into their house. It has long been no secret to anyone that in a person's life there are turning points, sometimes called personal crises, when it is simply necessary to rethink the past, to make important new decisions, and to fight inside with oneself. Age crises of men are expressed much brighter than in women and are much harder and harder, so let's look at them in some detail.
The first age-related crisis in men takes place at the age of 14-16 , when the adolescents appear inside the need to prove to everyone around them, and most importantly, to themselves, that he is not at all small and can do everything himself without the care and help of adults. And what most parents regard as hooliganism and debauchery is only as a search for oneself and natural self-affirmation.
The second crisis occurs in 21-23 years . The guy already needs to prove to himself that he is quite an adult in all spheres of life. He begins to make plans for his entire future life: initially - fame, by all means becoming only the first, auto, money, a beautiful wife, beloved children who will necessarily adore him. Everything, as a rule, is beautiful, grandiose and, alas, certainly not realistic. Often it is at this age that the guys enter into a marital relationship. And it is because of the fact that by such an act they rise as if to several positions to the top of their colossal plans.
By the age of 28-30 he clearly understands that all his youthful dreams are only a mirage, and with a sharp blade that deprives him of the meaning of life, a cruel truth called "never" pierces the man's mind. He will never be in everything only first, he will never achieve what he once rushed to and what he wanted, never ... never ... It is hard and painful not only to realize this, but also to accept. You have to accept that you are just as ordinary a person as everyone else, that your work is no different from the rest, simple, and not bringing the desired satisfaction, the family is not a happy, happy family , but just a life, there is always a shortage of what something, reproaches and discontent ... Already fed up with attempts to establish something in life, even finding out the relationship and open conversations with his wife do not give the desired results. When a man has a crisis, he understands that it is impossible to continue life like this, without any changes, and begins searching for love on the side, in order to at least somehow sweeten the grief and disappointment in the family and everything else that is associated with it. Hence a wave of divorce and endless betrayal. Many men, whose crisis is beginning to look for joy in drunkenness.
Such a crisis ends, only when a man begins to adequately perceive and take his life to the full in a realistic realistic way. At work, he begins to set achievable goals, the seed relationship goes to the usual line of cooperation and cohabitation. Young people find a distance between themselves, which suits everyone, everyone lives his own life and tries not to interfere in the life of another. And the most unpleasant thing is that this is perceived, unfortunately, quite normal.
It seems that all is well. Already the wife sighs with relief, however here comes the most difficult and difficult test - this is a crisis in a middle-aged man . Typically, 37-38 years for most men is just the same period when they begin to feel that they are, strangely enough, mortal. No, of course, everything was understood before, but only with the mind, without taking such information to heart. And here suddenly the first and indisputably signs begin to appear that it will inevitably come after you. Already health gives serious failures, lungs, liver, blood vessels, stomach, heart ... A man suddenly realizes that he, unfortunately, is getting old. "Does my life end? And can not anything be turned back ... And then what's the point of doing something if everything ends? Death is inevitable ... "
A man during the crisis begins to worry and "twitch". He can head to the sport with a head, in order to restore health, and absolutely, sometimes not controlling himself, while doing himself more harm. Career and money for him are irrevocably depreciated, and he wants to go not for a highly paid and prestigious job, but for one that can bring him at least a little emotional satisfaction. And some men just give up work during the crisis. Most of the fathers, with special zeal, begin to reach out to their own children, but run into "complex" adolescents with a completely different vision of life. In anxiety, he begins to drag on to his wife, but even his beloved does not manage to find the understanding he so needs. Since at this age, both begin different hormonal changes. Women have a lower estrogen level, and in men, respectively, testosterone, which makes men more sentimental, and women vice versa. Men may suddenly have tears, sometimes he may want to just cuddle up to his wife in search of understanding and sympathy, and the wife in the meantime has already disaccustomed to frankness and tenderness ... He thinks that no one understands him, emptiness, loneliness and ineptness - all this again leads to treason and drunkenness.
Periodic treason at this age is noteworthy in that, as a rule, a man sleeps with young girls, in order to prove to himself that he is capable of something and early to write it off. Unfortunately, the wife does not understand her husband, so very often there is a divorce for such changes. She thinks her faithful has just gone insane. In fact, the husband really needs her support and help, and in return he hears only condemnation and repulsion. In one minute the closest and dearest person suddenly becomes the fiercest enemy. Therefore, again comes the dramatic and difficult for both spouses of divorce peak.