What happens to the baby?
Behind the first months, when the crumb was adapted to the extrauterine life and in general was pretty calm. However, not all. Some parents complain that the first weeks were like a nightmare. The child cried all the time, but she could not understand what he wanted, mom. This exhausted both. Such a picture often happens if you have experienced difficult births. Even the most prosperous birth for the child is a great stress. And he just needs to cry, scream, make sure that nothing terrible has happened. At this moment it is very important for mother to be with the baby all the time, to carry it in her arms, to breastfeed, to organize a joint dream with the child. Mom established a feeding regime, learned to understand the crumbs. The second month passed fairly calmly, and here - new problems, to which it. it turns out, is not at all ready.
• There is not enough milk! Fears are unfounded if you feed on demand. Most likely, the problem is in the error of applying, which can manifest itself at this stage, because the baby begins to suck more actively and his needs for milk increase. If a crumb during feeding suddenly throws the chest, begins to cry, it does not mean that the problem is in your mammary glands. Just because of improper attachment, the child swallowed air. Help him regurgitate and talk with a specialist in breastfeeding. Remember that with the right attachment, the baby does not suck the nipple, but grasps the whole okolososkovuyu areola.
• Burning crying. Maybe earlier the baby quietly fell asleep and was not generally excitable, but then he began to have episodes of long crying. Perhaps he has colic. Try spreading crumbs on your stomach "skin to skin", take care of the child's nervous system, protecting the baby from bright light and sharp noises in the second half of the day. Alas, these measures do not always help. The nature of colic is still incomprehensible to doctors, there are versions of what causes them to be immaturity of the nervous system and the gastrointestinal tract. But do not despair: most babies suffer from colic not more than three to four weeks. If such conditions do not cease after a month and occur daily for half an hour or more, doctors diagnose colic. "In other respects, it is considered that the child undergoes another period of adaptation to the extrauterine life.F Slowing pace of development Many parents are concerned that the baby, who before that actively developed motor skills, suddenly "ceases to progress." In fact, this is not so! Just at three months, the children begin the stage of development of fine motor skills, and the large one "stops for a while." At this age, the baby begins to grab everything and tries to manipulate objects with the help of hands, and this is what attracts him more than attempts at active movement.
• Unexpected emotional reactions. At this age, most children willingly go to the hands of different adults, but there are exceptions. For example, a crumb may not accept any of the relatives or refuses to communicate with anyone other than mom. Do not make far-reaching conclusions. Such emotional reactions quickly change, do not attach importance to them.
What happens to the mother?
It would seem that it is high time for Mom to feel fully competent and experienced. But there it was, questions arose more and more. In addition to worrying about the baby, mom is also concerned about personal problems. And many women are on the verge of depression.
• Fatigue accumulates.
Not all young mothers easily experience changes in lifestyle, many find it difficult with a troubled toddler, often a woman has to lead a household and even work at home. In addition, the euphoria of the first weeks passes, and the woman realizes that in the near future she is unlikely to be able to devote much time to herself. What to do? First of all, remember that your holiday is one of the priorities. Ask for help from relatives: let them walk with a stroller, and you spend this time on a dream. Leave for a couple of hours crumbs at home with someone from your family and rest.
Sexual life
Many young mothers return to their intimate life before the child turns 2 months old. However, those who had crotch gaps or traumatic births can not do this until three months. In addition, in some women after libido increases, and in others - decreases under the influence of hormones and because of constant stress. Those who do not feel like it, despite the fact that the body has recovered from childbirth, experts recommend starting with a tender embrace with her husband. Remember also that libido is reduced due to lack of sleep. If you have problems such as vaginal dryness or pain during intercourse, use lubricants. Severe pain during coitus 3 months after birth - an occasion to consult a specialist.
• Relationship with the young father. Unfortunately, not all men are ready to share with the newly-mummy the worries associated with the appearance of the baby, and this leads to a stressful situation in the family. By reproaches you only aggravate the conflict. Pay attention to the young father's development of the baby, that he learns his father, etc. In the evening, communicate, bathe together and lay the crumbs. Another point is also important: sometimes our grievances can be groundless, and reproaches are unfair. You want the husband to share with you the care of the child. You get tired for the day, and expect that he will come and take the child upon himself. But you do not take into account the fact that Dad did not rest all day either. He worked and, like you, needs rest. If the financial situation allows, hire yourself an assistant who will unload you in the afternoon, so that in the evening you do not feel exhausted and could give time to your beloved husband.
• Instruction to the crib. At this age, many parents try to teach the baby to sleep in a separate bed and not wake up at night. Some experts believe that this is quite feasible task, and recommend that parents do this in order to have a good rest and sleep themselves, accustoming the child to the fact that it is necessary to make compromises. Other psychologists are sure that the child suffers if he is excommunicated from the mother for the period of sleep. You will have to focus more on your intuition than on the opinion of specialists. If you feel that it's time to teach your child to sleep separately, remember: it takes about 2 weeks. Lay the baby in bed after a regular ritual and evening feeding, wish him good night and leave the room, not rocking the crumb on his hands and not waiting for him to fall asleep at the chest. If the kid does not fall asleep immediately, you can go to him after 5, then after 10, then after 15 minutes to stroke him on the back, to say that the mother is near, but it's time to sleep. Most children for one or two weeks are taught to fall asleep on their own, if the parents behave firmly and confidently. However, we will repeat, not all children are ready for such a sharp excommunication. The kid still needs Mom so much. Do not reset the crumb to another room, put his crib to your bed, removing the side wall. Yes, three months is a difficult life stage. But, having overcome the problems, you will become much more confident in yourself.