An independent child is the high goal of conscious parenthood. But where is the line between intelligent help and repression of useful aspirations? Child psychologists recommend adhering to three simple axioms in the upbringing of the baby.
Step one is rational freedom of choice. If a crumb tries to tie a lace or spoon in a plate - do not immediately rush to the rescue. A patient explanation of the algorithm of actions, non-interference and inconspicuous support will bring much more benefit.
Step two is to encourage intent. Does the child show interest in cooking or washing dishes? It makes sense to praise his initiative and hand over the apron of the "kitchen assistant". So the kid will feel the importance of his actions and will be able to realize their practical value.
Step three is an alternative. Even prohibitions can be useful: a refusal should have understandable reasons. Even better, if it is accompanied by the permitted options for action. If the child does not want to wear shoes for a walk, you should not only insist on your own, but in return offer him the choice of shoes that he wants himself. Such "conditional" freedom will allow the child to think carefully and make decisions independently.