Third extra: how to get rid of his wife from his mistress. Checked in practice

Love Triangle - a model of relationships, which can be considered classics. Can you imagine the world cinema, fiction, secular chronicle or even reliable historical events without this lovingly-geometric figure? No! For without it, as without the seasoning in the dish: fresh, boring, tasteless. Not only culture, but all our life, would be significantly impoverished without such best-sellers with classical triangles as "Quiet Flows the Don", "Love and Doves", "Great Gatsby", and accordingly without love with three "corners". But it's one thing to experience the heat of passion together with the movie heroes, chewing popcorn, and quite another - to become one of the "corners" in your own love drama. But is it worth calling the relationship in which we are forced to develop in order to save our love? Perhaps we should look at the situation not from the "corner", but from the outside? Maybe then it becomes clear that the love triangle is just a game in which the one who knows its rules wins!

Who is to blame and what to do?

The theme of the love triangle is mainly affected by women. It is they who most often turn to psychologists with the problem of love, in which a rival appeared. He, she and her lover - a classic triangle, where, as a rule, the "weak link" of the wife feels. For at all times, mistresses were considered predators, and wives were victims of the current situation. Here is the answer to the question "Who is to blame?" As if emerging. Blame - a lover, a husband - unscrupulous, and his wife - "poor lamb"! So it is necessary according to the laws of the genre, and so the most just court in the world decided - the court of the public. What to do?! On this question, the public also has a strict verdict: to execute a mistress, to pardon her husband and force her to love his wife, and give his wife the honorary title of "Holy Great Martyr"! If you change the angle of view, and try to look at the situation with humor, then the veil of seriousness falls and a grain of truth appears. There are no only guilty and uniquely righteous people! But there are public opinion and stereotypes that have become an integral part of our consciousness, and in which we have believed, as in our own conclusions. But what if we look at the situation not as a tragedy of universal proportions, but as an opportunity to turn from a "weak link" into a mistress of the situation? Do you think it is difficult? Not at all! If you are familiar with the rules of the game in which life has distributed "cards" for three, you will be able to build your own wise strategy for the return of the husband to the bosom of the family. But it may happen that during the "game" you will find that you have found something more valuable - love and respect for yourself. And then, believe me, your husband will get rid of excess "corner" and will puzzle over how to fall in love with his wife, who also, it turns out, knows how to be a predator.

"The Theory of a Stool" or why there is a love triangle

There is a theory that literally on the fingers, or rather, on the "legs", explains how a love triangle is formed. It is called "The Theory of a Stool". Suppose a stool is a family, and two of its legs are a husband and wife. At a certain moment (for a reason known only to a family whose life is "dark for everyone else"), the stool ceases to hold on to two legs and begins to fall. There can be many reasons: dissatisfaction with sex, appearance, age, borscht, money, etc. This is where the third and even the fourth "stool foot" appears. Extra legs are convenient in that thanks to them the stool is held steady. There is a wise saying about this situation among the people: "A good leftist strengthens the marriage!" Relations on the side can become a reliable support for the basic relations. However, if you remove one of the legs that created the family, then in the stool, as the basis on which the love triangle was built, there is no point. It turns out that the "spare" legs were just a complement to the whole. Without a stool, they lose value, and there is no need for them. In other words, if a marriage breaks up, then there is no need for outside ties, because there is nothing to strengthen. Therefore, it often happens that when the former family ceases to exist, a new cell of society from former lovers is not formed. Hence, from this theory an obvious conclusion arises: love will not become a polygonal figure, if the needs of both sides are fully satisfied.

How to win in a love triangle?

Rule of the game number 1: Building a strategy

If you are scribbling this article, then, most likely, you are at the stage when it is too late to find out who is to blame for the created love triangle, but it's time to find an answer to not giving sleep, and there is the question: "What should I do?" Before in all, you need to conduct a frank conversation with you and understand, you want to be right or happy? If you are right, then you need to immediately hire detectives for round-the-clock surveillance of your husband, hackers - for hacking all his passwords, and a boxing instructor - to send a rival to knockout. But, when opening the hunt for lovers, be extremely honest with yourself, answering the questions: "What will I do with the truth found?" And "Are I ready to destroy the relationship with my husband?" After the exposure, concrete decisions and consistent actions must follow. If you realize all the risks, and your goal is a divorce, then go out to the warpath and prove your rightness.

Rule of the game number 2: Looking for reasons

There is another approach to the situation where you and your husband are happy together. If you value relationships that have been repeatedly confirmed by sincere support, participation and love, which is more expensive than any passion - stop digging! Search need not a mistress, but the reasons that created the triangle. If you do not tackle the causes, but will eliminate the consequences, i.e. mistresses, then you just waste your energy - one, another, and so on will replace one. And each subsequent will be all younger and more impudent. "Excavations" to find the reasons you need to start with yourself! What did not finish? What did not you see? What did not finish? Rival, believe me, sooner or later itself will fall into the self-placed traps of female charms and love strategies. Unlikely, taking her husband out of the family and triumphantly rejoicing over the looming status of the wife, she realizes that by taking someone's place of a wife, she frees her mistress place. In this situation, it will not be empty for a long time.

Rule of the game number 3: We rewrite the "programs"

Correctly prioritize the chosen strategy. You must understand that it is much more important not so much to return the errant husband as to get out of the triangle by the winner, and not over the rival - but the winner in your own eyes, and over your own fears, complexes and obsolete ones. They hide under stereotypes, public "morality" and the opinion of those who are not asked, but who always knows how to right. Eliminate from your mind the attitudes that program you into the classical war in the classical triangle. Rewrite the "programs" where you are the victim of the male husband, the husband is the victim of the insidious predator, and in general - "all the men are yours ..."! Act non-standard, and then on old as the world of love battles you get completely new and easy solutions. Instead of spending energy and energy on finding guilty ones and revenge, spend them on your loved one. Sign up for the dance - preferably passionate, ask your boss for business trips - preferably distant, fall in love - preferably in yourself!

Instead of spending energy and energy on finding guilty ones and revenge, spend them on your loved one. Sign up for the dance - preferably passionate, ask your boss for business trips - preferably distant, fall in love - preferably in yourself!

Defeated and Winners

Turn your world upside down - it's up to you. But what do you lose? It will never be the same again! So paint it with new colors and create your own paradise! What will follow this transformation? Your husband will be very pleased at first! It seems to him that in the triangle he created, he is the winner: and the adoring mistress is nearby, and the "comfortable" spouse staying in the holy ignorance. Consciously playing with him in "giveaway", you continue to change. Let not overnight, but he will not be able to notice this. And already these metamorphoses, believe me, will cause interest in it! Then, from the "left corner" of the triangular ring, reproaches will be made to the husband's address. Time passes, and with it the youth of the mistress. Her marriage is unbearable, and she is still just a mistress! But the more complaints she has, the more "trumps" you have. The rival starts to irritate her husband more and more, while you become more confident, harmonious and attractive, including for other people's men. But the main thing is that you become a wise woman who can wait until the "wheel" makes its full turn! Now you will never agree with the role of the victim and take the right to decide who is defeated and who is the winner! Thanks to the "triangular" situation, you have risen above the ordinary, and reached a new level, where by and large you do not care, there will be a husband or another man nearby. With a woman who creates her own rules of the game, there will always be someone!