So, consider these simple techniques and methods, which resort to tempters. If one of them seems to you rather familiar, be vigilant - maybe you became a victim of a seducer or a pickup artist.
Mechanisms of impact
1. Vows and promises (everything is used, up to the promise to get married, get acquainted with the parents).
2. Use the word "love". The guy inclines the girl to the closeness, telling her "Prove to me your love, it will help our love to grow, blossom," etc.
3. The guy convinces that it is necessary to check each other for sexual compatibility. Having achieved intimacy, he disappears.
4. Appeal to pity. "Have pity on me, you do not care, but I will be fine, I will cease to suffer from sexual dissatisfaction." First of all, convince yourself that you do not care!
5. Threat: "You will not give up - I will find myself another."
6. A game of self-esteem: "If you do not go for it, then you're not like everyone else, not modern, not normal."
Answer your questions
When you meet a young man who persistently inclines you to intimate relationships, do you, girls, ask such questions:
How he treats me?
How much does he know how to control himself?
What does he know and do in the field of sexual relations?
Is he inclined to frivolity and how serious are his intentions?
Does he really say what he thinks?
Will he sever the relationship with me if I say that I'm not ready for intimacy?
What will he do if I get pregnant?
What methods and means of protection, if I say, it will use and will they be used at all?
Do I really want this and are my own intentions serious about him?
Do we understand each other, are we okay with each other just like that, without sex?
Know how to say "no"
If you are at a loss to answer these questions, then do not be afraid to say a hard "no". Simply "no", firmly and resolutely, without hesitation and apology.
"I do not want, and this is enough that there is no intimacy."
"No, I hate being forced to do something".
"No, I do not feel ready for this."
"No, I'm terribly afraid of it." (Be prepared in this case for this kind of persuasion: "Do not be afraid, everything will be fine", "Let's drink to relax" or provocations like: "Little", "Kindergarten - pants on the straps"),
"No. And are you capable of having sex with a person who does not want it? "
"No, you're hurrying me, I do not know myself when I'm ready for it." (Do not succumb to provocations like: "How long can I wait, I'm tired, you do not love me")
"No, I do not yet have enough confidence in you." (In response, be ready for such a reaction: "Oh, that's how it is!" Well, then it's all over between us. "This can be a game in the hope that the girl will not stand and agree.) Do not be afraid to part with such a person.
"No, I think I should wait with this until I get married." (In response, you can hear "You're like a child, you're not modern", "We need to check each other in bed")
"No, I do not want to, and if you force me to do this, it will be violence."
"No. It seems that I myself do not care. " "No, you make me think that you'll leave me if I refuse."
"No, do not make me think badly of you."
"No, your actions convince me that I do not know you well."
Be able to stand up for yourself and do not let yourself be fooled so that this scoundrel with proudly tailed tail will not walk further into the hearts of young and naive girls!