The impact of abortion on a partner, whether male or female, is difficult to calculate. Therefore, going to such a step, remember that for abortion there must be a serious reason. The effect of this operation on psychology, at times, can not be compared with the difficulties that arise when we grow children. For partners, they become happiness, but abortion is a grief. After the abortion, many women feel guilty. The impact of this leads to the fact that women in every way try to forget what happened. Of course, for some partners, abortion is not a problem. They easily accept such terrible decisions and go to this step as if they need to do the usual vaccination. But, it is believed that such actions without consequences do not pass. Believers believe that by going to such a step, a woman loses some of her soul.
When a woman is very worried about what has happened, she can develop a strong sense of guilt. A consequence of this may be a subconscious desire for death or unwillingness to build one's happiness with a man. Thus, the girls try to punish themselves for doing it. Frequent there are cases when they diverge from men or they develop diseases. Also, often, women are ashamed to admit that they have had an abortion. Therefore, they try to hide what they have done from everyone, spending a lot of energy on it, experiencing and irritating. All leads to the fact that women begin to break on relatives, get angry and nervous, become unbalanced.
Well, how do abortions affect men? It turns out, according to recent studies, it is very difficult for many men to survive this fact. Guys get a psychological trauma and can not get rid of it for a long time. Some men do not forgive women and drop them when they learn that they have done an abortion without telling their partner about a future child.
Why is it so difficult for men to survive the fact of abortion and what affects their psychology? It is known that any guy, even subconsciously, wants to be successful in five aspects of life. It is pleasure, achievement, protection of one's family, reproduction and provision. It turns out that for many things a man is motivated precisely by the desire to reproduce a new life, to have his children. Even if the guy does not talk about it, in fact it is very important for him that there is a part of him, a continuer of his kind. Also, men just need to protect their family. Without this, they do not feel necessary and full. That's why, when a woman makes an abortion, a man automatically ceases to feel like a reproducer and protector of his family.
How do guys experience abortion of their favorite women? Everyone can express it in his own way. But, almost everyone feels weakly controlled attacks of anger. Some start smoking a lot or using drugs. Others try to go to work with their heads to forget about what happened. Also, there are men who lose their jobs, as they begin to feel as if they can not make decisions at all. Also, this kind of stress is manifested through insomnia and panic. Men have nightmares, they stop trusting their wives, become loners and even think about suicides. Another problem that can arise after an abortion is unwillingness to have sex or problems during it.
If we talk about these problems in more detail, of course, it is worth starting with anger. When a guy gets angry after an abortion, his behavior may even become inadequate. Therefore, if a woman sees that a partner has become prone to outbursts of rage, she should be prepared for the fact that a young person can harm herself and herself. By the way, anger is expressed not only directly. Simply, the guy feels that he will never be able to protect his unborn child. So they start drinking alcohol. In this way, men try to drown out the pain that they became abortion participants and, at the same time, could not do anything and stop it. If a man does not drink or use drugs, but, from morning to evening, disappears at work, this behavior also, in no case, can not be considered normal. In this case, the guys try to avoid contact with other people and achieve at least something to not feel flawed and unnecessary.
In the case when a man is clearly very worried about abortion, it is necessary to help him deal with this problem. Otherwise, he still harbors anger and resentment, and his emotions will necessarily pop up, and at the moment when the woman will expect this least. Such emotions, most often, arise when guys see pregnant women and children. , as we all understand, every day, going out, we can meet a pregnant woman, well, the kids meet at every step. Therefore, a man should be allowed to mourn his child, speak out, share all those emotions that he feels. Also, he really needs to forgive his woman and understand why she did it. If the girl understands that the guy can not forgive, it is best to contact a psychologist to help put all the points on the "i" and save your relationship. If you see that the guy is angry, you do not need to reassure him and try to bring him into the senses with cries. He must experience it with you, realize, digest and re-think. If he can do this, he will be able to forgive his beloved woman, then he will completely let go of what has happened and will forget about it. Only then will you be able to build relationships and, in time, live happily.