This is a very difficult period in the family life, fate presents the family with a test of the strength of the union, loyalty, love. And here much depends first of all on the woman, after all it is considered from the earliest times - the keeper of the hearth. Most often, families are subject to divorce, where the woman behaves passively or panically (irritated, for any reason, sounding the alarm). Such marital relations do not become exactly when the sick child was born, the makings were made even before his birth. In families where a good relationship has developed from the beginning, this rarely happens. Some couples believe that the birth of a sick child only strengthened their union. But more often than not it happens regrettably on the contrary.
An example from life.
I will give an example, in one young family the boy grew up (three years), and the family decided to start one more. During pregnancy, cardiac abnormalities were detected in the fetus (by ultrasound). The wife was confident that they would be able to survive and with the opportunities of modern medicine to overcome this, the child will cure. A pretty girl with a heart triad was born. Everyone was happy, both Mom and Dad and the boy, because now he has a sister. The doctors told the parents that the child will not live long, as the heart wall is uninfected, it is possible to do the operation, but it is expensive. Parents are not desperate, they began to collect money, applied for special funds. The money for the operation thanks to the city and regional residents were collected quickly. The girl was given one operation, but this was removed one of three threats to the life of the girl. Up to 5 years it was necessary to undergo a number of operations. Mom staunchly endured all adversities and experiences in contrast to his father. He began to walk around (which, incidentally, he had done before) more often, leaving all cares, on the fragile shoulders of a woman ... two or three years passed. And there came such a moment that it was already impossible for a woman and to experience, fight alone for the health of a girl and endure the antics of her husband. The marriage broke up, the real cause of the rupture of this union, I believe, was not the health of the girl, but the walking character of the father. Perhaps, of course, a serious undermining and gave the fact that the girl was born with deviations. Additional troubles, experiences undermined and so not a stable relationship. And the girl's father did not stop even the fact that on the fragile shoulders of his wife are taking care of two more little children.
Another example for comparison.
In one family with the developed warm, friendly matrimonial relations there was a first-born with heavy deviations. Parents are very hard to live through. The husband confessed that he would have flinched and filed for divorce, he doubted his right choice. His wife seemed to him not so clever, beautiful, and only her fault that the child was born sick. His wife, on the contrary, behaved tactfully, not stopping on the mountain, and paid attention not only to the child, but also to her husband. Without giving out her experiences, she watched, as before, her own home. And it was thanks to this behavior that the marriage did not fall apart, and the relations between the spouses soon came to normal friendly and warm. After that, two more healthy children appeared in the family. And according to the couple, their family is strong and friendly.
From these examples it is evident that if family relations were first laid on love and fidelity, the sick child not only did not lead to the rupture of the union, but rather strengthened it. And in those relationships where everything was not so good before, the birth of a sick child gave rise to a break in marital relations.
If you believe statistics ...
According to research data, and according to observations from the side, the disruption of family relations negatively affects the mental development of the child, both healthy and sick. They are more prone to depressive conditions, sometimes requiring medical examination (placement in psychiatric hospitals, or monitoring by a psychiatrist). There are negative emotional manifestations - frequent disruptions without cause, aggressiveness, difficult interpersonal relationships. Especially such manifestations are affected by children with intellectual disabilities. Girls usually easily endure family breaks, as for boys, they feel much easier if after a break between parents, good, friendly relations are preserved. In no event, after breaking off the relationship, do not try to play on the child - to take revenge on the husband, putting a ban on his visits with the child. Do not interfere with their further relationships, they are already undermined, and you will exacerbate it, it can be very bad, it will affect the child, his mental development and character. Do not bow the child to your side, pouring mud on your father, from this the child becomes not self-confident. Do not show your negative in the presence of the child. It is very negatively postponed all this to children with deviations. Also, do not take out your malice, do not rush off on the child, punishing him, putting him in a corner, and which is even worse when inflicting physical punishment (slapping, strapping). As studies show more often, thus, children who are more active are affected, that is, they are hindered, as it were, under their feet and difficult to stop. However, the use of physical punishment does not stop such children, it will lead to even more activity, or it will be deposited in the subconscious and, having reached a certain heat, will pour out. It is better to start with yourself in such a situation, be like training, consult a psychologist. Analyze your condition, and how it affects the not-so-innocent, and so infringed on the child.
Also, too much care for the child is not very good. The child, he, as a litmus paper absorbs everything and takes his reaction to the situation. With great care, he can become too selfish, and already at a more adult age with such a child it will be simply impossible. He will not yield to either persuasion or physical punishment. He will have reduced adaptive properties, he will need to have a parent always nearby. It is better to develop relationships where the mother tries to understand the child, his problems and, of course, does not forget about the other members of the family.
As we see, with the elastic relations in the family with a sick child, they do not always remain the same, favorable.