Many men believe that his wife will not go anywhere, because she is a property. And the husband can do anything with her. Look closely at your friends, colleagues at work. Did you notice that you are hiding behind a smile on duty? Why is your girlfriend wearing sunglasses today, and the girl from the next department did not wear that short skirt that she boasted yesterday?
Let's look at the problem from the inside and try to figure out what to do in this situation.
According to 2009, almost 80% of Russian families are constantly experiencing domestic violence in one form or another. And, namely, the assault rifle takes the first place. A woman who has been subjected to assault by her husband does not seek help from anywhere. And, actually, where to call? Only by phone hotline, and chat with the operator, who, unfortunately, can not help and do nothing.
To stop domestic violence, it is necessary to implement a set of measures aimed at social support and protection of women. Medical, legal and psychological assistance should be considered. In Russia, at the moment, there is no such service.
Strangely enough, the most successful experience in the prevention of domestic violence exists in the United States. Any American who has been battered by her husband may temporarily move to a social support center where she can get qualified help and hide herself from her aggressive husband. They will help to fix the fact of beatings, provide all the necessary documentation. A resident of the United States is not alone in her problem, she has much to turn to. And what should Russian women do?
To begin with, it is worthwhile to understand what danger for you and your children is provided by an aggressive husband, and how to minimize beatings, and even better, completely stop them. Let's see what types of men's danger exist.
Flayer.
Outwardly it is an ideal family man, always affable, sweet and open with outsiders. No one would ever have been able to say about such a person that he is capable of domestic violence. Your friends secretly envy that you are married to such a wonderful person. The husband at work is the leader, in the company of friends - the main factory. It has a good taste, it keeps track of itself.
Beating his wife in a sober state. In order to get out of himself, one word of your wrong word is enough. Failures with meaning, he is sure that he punishes you rightfully, after all, "she is to blame."
Despot.
A typical tyrant. He rules in the family, behaves as he wants. Met with friends, can get drunk at home. He is engaged in assault rifles just like that, he does not need an excuse. As a rule, at the moment of beating a man is drunk. In the morning he will not remember what happened, and he will never apologize. The psychology of the despot is very simple: "sometimes you need to beat your wife so that she knows her place."
Jonah.
Such a man suffers from a low self-esteem, he had many failures in his life, and he tries to get his dissatisfaction out of the world and himself in the beatings of an innocent wife. Such a man, as a rule, sometimes drinks, can go "left". He tries to show his strength to the weak woman. Calculate a loser by external signs is very difficult.
Rebel.
He is an excellent family man, he loves his wife and children. At work it is appreciated, in the company of friends - they are respected. Helps around the house, in a word, the perfect husband. He dissolves his hands only by deep drinking and in big scandals. For his actions, then apologize, and will be very sorry about what happened.
As a rule, in such families the woman herself initiates beatings, believing that she can tell a man anything with complete safety for herself. Remember that you can get a man out of himself with just one word.
What to do if your seminal life turns into hell, are you afraid of your own husband? First of all, it is worth considering whether you are ready to continue living with such a man. Remember that once a beating occurs, can happen again.
In the case of Despot and Zhivader, you can safely call the police, they will definitely come and take an aggressive husband for a while. And do not be afraid of the views of neighbors, relatives and acquaintances. You are in trouble and you need help.
There are special social support services, contacting them, you can get expert help and advice. Experienced psychologists will tell you how to behave and protect yourself from domestic violence.
Decide, of course, you, but a woman does not deserve to be beaten and is not obliged to live with a man who is engaged in assault. Perhaps the only sure way is divorce.