Complexes prevent us from living - this is unquestionable. But how to cope with them? And first you need to look at the root of the problem in order to be able to solve its consequences. So, what are the men's complexes associated with sex?
1. "I do not earn enough money"
Unfortunately, today male solvency is measured by the availability of money. That is an opportunity to own an expensive car or a woman's love, or several credit cards, or real estate in Europe and so on. However, rarely a man asks himself the question: "What is the most important thing in life, I will spend money when they will?".
The answer to it is not so simple, but with thoughtful reflection it can be staggering. Sometimes a man forgets that the people around him love not only money. They also appreciate kindness, caring, originality, humor - all that he can have in abundance. A man must know exactly his strengths, and for that he is loved. Then he will not complex because of the missing at the moment.
2. "I'm not Casanova and not Don Juan, I can not 25 times a night." So I'm impotent? "
It would be foolish to think that impotence is a consequence of the fact that we badly eat or live next to a harmful plant. Impotence - a rollback to the pre-sexual phase of development, when a person lives with his mother. Plus a huge number of myths associated with male sexuality: "I have a small penis, I can not 25 times a night." Such stereotypes lead to the fact that those who can not 25 times a night will consider themselves impotent: "If I can not do this, then I'm not all right, so I'm flawed." So, I'm not like everyone else. Means, they will not love me. " Moreover, if a man has been sexually realized all his life, carefully maintaining the reputation of a playboy, sooner or later he falls under another fear: "When I become old, I can not have sex, I will cease to be necessary" This is the main candidate for psychological impotence - the first the same failure in bed makes such a playboy a real impotent.
3. "I can become henpecked"
A woman who has a more developed intuition by nature can really help with advice, listen, tell, support. But such stereotypes as "A man does not cry, he is upset," "a man should not express his feelings," make communication impossible. Smart man will find a way to find out the advice of his wife, stupid - will suffer from the fear of "henpecked".
Of course, there are male-like women "with a paddle" (and next to them, as a rule, a stuck man) - but this is already a "mother-son" relationship, and it looks all the same, respectively. But if we talk about two equivalent personalities, about the "husband-wife" relationship, a woman will necessarily listen to her husband and help him cope with many problems.
The best way to solve the "podkabluchnoy problem" - do not pay attention to public opinion. A man simply has to make a choice: "Do I live my life or social life."
Of course, it's difficult for us not to react to other people's assessments and opinions, but the task in this case is not to "die" from public opinion and not to subordinate your life to it, but to think and evaluate: "Why and for what point was that view? " A person still has to think for himself.
4. "I have a small height, and, consequently, a small member"
A man very often complains about physical disabilities. But one of these complexes are poisoning life, and others become legendary persons thanks to it (it is enough to recall Napoleon).
We are growing due to the fact that we have internal conflicts. A person always has a choice. Some build their careers on their physical handicaps, others start drinking, asserting themselves at the expense of others, and so on. Understanding that the physical deviation from the conventional is not the determining factor in the relationship is evidence of the maturity of the individual. Skills and literacy in intimate proximity, worldly wisdom and human understanding come to the fore.
5. "I am underestimated, I am an unrecognized genius"
At the heart of this complex syndrome of failure - also lies immaturity, infantilism. In Russia, this complex is very common, because our man is not used to obey the boss. For Americans, for example, this never occurs, it simply does not occur to them to assess the orders of their superiors. If you are underestimated at work, the simplest solution is to change the place of work and the boss. But most often a man is not going to change jobs. He will find out the relationship with his leadership, considering himself an unrecognized genius, hanging in the problem as a cradle.