Traditions can "build" our life literally on the brick: for breakfast we invariably eat porridge, a festive table can not be thought without kulebyaki, we clean the apartment on Saturdays, and we spend vacations on the sea ... And why exactly, we do not think. However, the answer is unlikely to find - just because it was originally formed ...
Custom or dogma?
There is another function of good family traditions, although at first glance it may seem secondary: they determine the degree of viability of the "organism" that supports them.
It is here that the "watershed" between the customs of the living and the dead takes place. The latter means blindly following the order that was set by someone some day. Usually, they settle with those who are too lazy or too busy to take the initiative, to invent something of their own, because for any innovation will have to be responsible.
Living traditions, on the contrary, make life more fun, evoke imagination and strengthen relations between people.
With its charter ...
Each family has its own customs. They touch everything: how to equip the house, distribute duties, educate children, what to cook for the festive table, where to rest ... And it seems to us that in another way it simply can not be. We are accustomed to this - that's all.
This is especially evident in the very beginning of family life, when young spouses only get used to each other. In "their" family they come from the parent, in which certain orders were established. And her husband finds it hard to understand the wife's demands: why should he follow other rules, and not those to which he is accustomed. If you do not agree on time, do not adjust, do not find a compromise, resentment and disappointment are inevitable. If your family has not yet been overgrown with customs, do not "drag" them all in a heap out of the home. Try to develop your own, taking into account the interests of her husband.
Renaissance
Most easily, good family traditions "tie" to holidays and weekends, because these days assume that the whole family is in a gathering and in high spirits (one word is rest). Choose one of the holidays that you would like to transform, for example, the anniversary of the wedding. Agree with your friends that you will all make these days "national": one will arrange a party in English style, the other in German, the third in Japanese. Pick up music, outfits, decorate the house, prepare suitable dishes, spend "folk" games.
In the family circle, acquire daily traditions. Think of some original way to say hello and say goodbye to your husband.
For the child, the ritual of going to sleep is good: the children adore whispering with their mother, listen to a fairy tale or a simple lullaby.
Saturday's tradition can be a family "going out into the light": excursion, cinema, theater, bowling ... An indispensable condition: a clear repeatability and ... an element of surprise. And yet: it should please everyone!
On May holidays, you can go to the forest - fire, barbecue, outdoor games. Romance and adventure - what could be better!
Memorable moments
Family album. Unfortunately, most of us know little about their relatives beyond the third tribe. Collect pictures of your great-grandparents, provide them with at least brief information - let your children, and then grandchildren remember their family.
The modern move. Scan the old yellowed photos and create a web album from them. Be sure to involve children in this process - they will be passionate about the business, at the same time feel part of a large family.
Letters from the past
If you have a romantic correspondence between your grandparents, moms and dads, do not rush to throw out these messages. Place them in transparent file folders so that time does not damage the paper, print the dates. Believe me: it will be interesting for your "computerized" descendants to get acquainted with the epistolary genre of their ancestors - this is not a fictional work of an unknown literary classic, but a real novel.