And there are many opinions about how to choose a name for the child by patronymic.
Previously, the name for the child was selected according to the church calendars. And everything was simple: every day had some patron saint. On what day the baby was born, this name also received. And the patron - along with the name. On the fortieth day after the birth of the child, they baptized, fixing the received name.
True, very often in families up to the age of 17 children were called by either a nickname or another name, so that "evil spirits are deceived". These beliefs have a history even more ancient than Christianity. And many of them persist to this day.
For example, it is recommended not to give the child the name of a deceased relative. Especially if he died early, and even tragically. It is believed that along with the name the child will inherit both troubles and a short life.
However, to give the newborn the names of the living relatives, especially parents, also do not advise. First of all, signs assure that the newborn will involuntarily take away vital energy from his namesake. It is also believed that the guardian angel available for each name can not cope with the protection of two wards in one house.
Modern psychologists confirm the undesirability of such a choice. However, they motivate their recommendations with other reasons. Thus, it is believed that boys with a "double" name such as Sergei Sergeevich, Mikhail Mikhailovich, Ivan Ivanovich grow up capricious and unbalanced. And girls who have become namesake their mothers, rarely find a common language with them. At the same time, folk traditions advise a woman, giving birth only to daughters, to name the younger one by her name. They assure that in this case the next son will be born.
Sometimes, when choosing a name, parents follow political changes. Especially vividly manifested "new creation" in terms of names in the post-revolutionary period. The people, freed from the need to call children in accordance with the instructions of the priests, began to give them the written names - abbreviations: Vilor (a) - "Vladimir Ilyich Lenin October Revolution", Dazdraperma (Long live May 1), Oktyabrin (a). Then came the Stalin, the Africans, Changi.
Children are hard with such names. Often such a name hides behind the life of another, less pretentious. And with the male name a heavy "legacy" is sometimes passed on to the next generation. Try to imagine what kind of patronymic obtained from the children of Chang. Son - Changovic. And the daughter? Would you like to have such a patronymic?
Of course, parents always want a child to wear a rare, if not unique, name. Especially, if both the surname and patronymic get to the exquisite kid. But, when choosing a rare name for a child, do not get carried away by exoticism. Think about what will be the baby among his peers. And your grandchildren - are you lucky?
There is also the opposite situation, when choosing a name for a long-awaited child, parents follow fashion trends. And if a few years ago Violetta, Snezhany, Kristina, Karina appeared all the time, now Zakharov, Akimov, Terentyev and Matveyev came.
This approach is fraught with its complications. A child with that name may experience discomfort, finding himself surrounded by many other children with the same name. And you will be, if at your call in the yard will turn ten children?
Perhaps the best way to choose the right name for a kid is common sense. Each of the emerging options is not just a matter of thinking, but voicing. "Taste it." Correlate it with a middle name, with a surname. Appreciate the full name, and abbreviated options, and affectionate forms.
An important moment in the modern world is the easy spelling of the name in the international version. Think about the future of your son, about how his name will look in his passport. Difficulties with variants of writing some Russian sounds can increase the likelihood of future mistakes in the preparation of documents. And sometimes it seems like an excellent Russian name Sergei can give an undesirable version of Ser gay in the international writing.
Think about what associations you have with a particular name. What kind of person do you remember when you hear it? Remember that the images that pop up in your subconscious at the sounds of the child's name will be projected onto his destiny. So, for example, if Marina's name is associated with Marina Tsvetaeva's image, do not rush to call your daughter to them. Of course, the girl can be given a poetic gift of namesake. But usually the negative is much more easily transmitted. In this case, it could be a future personal disorder, a difficult relationship with the mother, with their own children.
Even if you do not believe in horoscopes and predictions, you should read books about the meanings of names. We want it or not, but the chosen name influences the formation of the character of the child. How it will be - soft and accommodating or energetic and principled - depends largely on your current decision. Its influence is even what the shortened version you will call your baby. For example, it is noticed that Vova and Laura are much harder and more purposeful than those who in their childhood were called Volodya and Lely (or Lyalya).
It can hardly be considered reasonable to choose a name by the method of tossing out options, called all members of the family. A vivid example of a possible result can be considered an episode of the cartoon "Three from Prostokvashino", where the calf was almost called a Teapot.
Care should be taken to use names that can be called boys and girls. Especially in combination with surnames that are not inclined. For example, Sasha Nechitailo or Valya Petkun are boys or girls?
Thinking about how to choose the right name for the child on the patronymic, you will meet with many tips and theories. All of them should be considered. After giving the baby a name, you largely determine his fate. But sometimes it happens that all carefully thought out options collapse at a glance at the newborn. It just becomes obvious that the name should be quite different. In that case, trust your baby. Do not rush to make out the documents: it will take some time, and he will tell you how to name it.