If at least once you hear from your child the phrase "I do not like anyone" or "They do not take me with them to play with", then you know how difficult it is for a toddler who does not have friends.
Openness
Any friendship begins with a certain sign, which indicates that two people want to be friends. Therefore, the first step on the road to friendship is to show the person who you liked, that is open to friendship with him. Preschoolers often ask directly: "Do you want to be friends with me?", But older children are much less likely to express sympathy.Greeting
A very simple way to show openness is to greet a potential friend. A shy child often has problems with this. If other children say "Hello!", He turns away and does not answer anything, or mumbles something mumbling in response. This is because he feels uncomfortable and embarrassed, but this impresses other children: "I do not like you, I do not want to have anything to do with you!" This is not at all what an embarrassed child feels, but he conveys such a signal.If all of the above is like your child, and you want to help him, try rehearsing a greeting with other children in a playful form. Break this wall. Explain to your child that when you greet others you need to look them in the eyes, smile friendly and speak loudly enough to be heard. A call by name makes the greeting more personal. After you practice, help the child identify a few people from his real environment, whom he himself will greet.
Compliments
Compliments are another simple way to show one's openness to friendship. It's always nice to receive a sincere compliment, and we tend to sympathize with people who are receptive enough to appreciate our best qualities!Think up with your child a few ways to compliment classmates. Let them be simple: "A good T-shirt!" - for a friend who plays basketball, "I like how you painted the sky!" - for the creative work of a peer, "You have a pretty sweater" - for a classmate dressed in a new thing. These are just some examples.
Goodwill
A little kindness is also a good way to show sympathy. You can lend a pencil to a classmate, take a place for someone, help something to move or share a lunch. Goodwill generates kindness and this is a wonderful way to make friends.In the team there are always favorites, and often the children try to buy their friendship, giving away their money or valuables. It never works. Many children will not share their pleasantries with you, so that they are not offered, so you will not deserve their respect. And being overboard with your gifts, your child will soon fall into despair, than become open and sociable. There is one more caution. Kindness is determined by actions, not by intentions. Sometimes small children show their disposition, hugging or kissing classmates, demanding that they play only with them. If other children are not comfortable with this behavior, it is unlikely that they will regard it as a manifestation of kindness. You need to help the child find not such harsh ways to express their sympathy.
The manifestation of openness is the first component on the way to acquiring friends, it opens wide the metaphorical door of friendship. But this does not mean that everyone can enter this door. In order to increase the probability of finding friends, children should offer friendship to those who are ready to respond. This is the second main component of building friendly relations.