How often should I remind myself of a guy?

Few of us like obsession with other people. Even if it's your own guy. Although we girls often require this - constant calls and messages with the text "I miss", "Where are you?", "What are you doing?". Then we also tend to call it just nausea, although initially we prefer to use the word "care". Men are slightly different, they do not like these persistent calls with eternal questions, in which suspicions are partly heard. They want to sit quietly and quietly in the company of friends, talk about common interests, and not listen to your notation that you are waiting for him at home at 9 pm and not a minute later. But what is to be done? Is it possible to postpone the phone, close it in the safe and glue your hands together with scotch tape, so that again and again you do not reach the coveted keys, dialing the number you know by heart? But you do not want him to forget about you. Since you often need to remind yourself of a guy, so as not to be too intrusive, and at the same time, not to impress the girl who does not care about your relationship at all.

It all depends, on a larger scale, only on your character and on how serious your relationship is. And the frequency of calls and messages is inversely proportional to the strength of your feelings. What I mean? Only that people who sincerely love each other will trust each other. And do not call every 15 minutes in search of compromising material, so that afterwards in your hearts you shout: "Traitor", not listening to explanations on that end of the phone. But this does not mean that loving people do not call up at all. They simply do it unobtrusively, with sincere care and excitement, and this gives them only joy. Every phone call wants to continue indefinitely, and from each new message in the veins, the blood boils.

How to remind a man about himself

But if your relationship has not yet entered this stage, and you are tormented by the question: how often should you remind yourself of a guy ?, then first think about your own temperament. It's very simple: if you are a "woman-fire", passionate, hot and jealous - then you have to take yourself in hand. Since natural temperament will constantly push you to the phone to call, learn, ask, find out. Such women like to talk a lot, long and loud, they try to keep abreast of all the deeds and events that occur in her man. In parallel, she tries to find out also with whom her boyfriend spends time, especially she is interested in the female sex. Which, in principle, is not strange, but for a man - very uninteresting and repulsive in places.

A temperamental and jealous girl must be able to restrain herself in pursuit of record numbers of messages and calls, since so much to remind oneself of a guy is simply indecent. Especially in the event that the relationship is just starting to gain momentum. Usually you can not set certain quantitative restrictions on all sorts of calls and letters, but a woman-jealous woman should start with at least that. Count how many times a day you call your man? And boldly cut this number even half. Of course, at first it will be very difficult, because you are so used to expressing your interest and care in this way. However, think about how your man feels when every fifteen minutes his phone issues an orderly podnadoevshy call and the screen again shows your name. No, you really give him joy and happiness, however, measure the amount of this very happiness! And let him not much happens, but it's better to transfer everything you want to tell him on the phone, in life. This is many times more pleasant, you will agree! In addition, in addition to the main advantages that gives you live communication, there is one more advantage of the conversation: you can observe the reaction of your boyfriend. On words of love, on gentle phrases, and simply on stories from life. But on the phone to understand - how it relates to this or that sounded your proposal, it is very difficult. Think about it every time you pick up the phone. Now you will tell him the next news, he - or will rejoice or not, but you will not see it. And thereby deprive yourself of the opportunity to understand: how did he react to the news. While you can wait a bit - and in the evening, in a romantic atmosphere, talk to him face to face, watching the reaction. This is especially important when you want to say something ... important, sincere.

Another help comes a funny video about how men talk on the phone with girls who are trying to tell everything and more. Remember how the handset with the monotonous male response "Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah" was passed from hand to hand while her true owner went to make himself a sandwich? So imagine that this is the case during your frequent and prolonged calls. This will discourage you from hunting too much, reminding the guy about yourself.

But there is another type of girls - cardinally opposite. Such girls very rarely make themselves felt throughout the day. Often guys take it for lack of feelings, such a manifestation of coldness and alienation. However, you do not need to be so categorical. Perhaps, somewhere in the depths of her soul, this girl understands the dangers of obsession and is simply afraid of bothering you?

If you noticed for yourself that your young man often insults with a grudge: why did not you call him after his important conference or why did not you ask him about his condition while he was lying at home with a cold, then, most likely, belong specifically to the second category of girls. That is, to those who need more often to pick up a mobile phone, dial the coveted number and at least talk a little, talk about love, how missed, how good that spring came ...

Here you can apply the same tactics, which we advised too talkative girls. Set yourself a certain number of bells and messages that you will make to your beloved. No, you do not need to force yourself - if you really do not know what to talk about with him now - but do not call "for a tick". However, if you are simply afraid that you will tear him away from important work cases - spit! Spit on your fears, and boldly dial the number, talk about everything you wanted to say all day, but did not dare. Your guy will definitely like this "breakthrough".

Well, and the rest is to understand: too often or too rarely you are able to remind your guy about himself you tell the guy himself. And do not necessarily call him to a frank conversation. He will let you know, if you are too intrusive. It is unlikely that he will not say that he does not have enough of your voice during a hard day!

Yes, and you yourself should understand when to call, and when - no. If your guy has talked about an important meeting for his career since the evening - why not call him after his graduation and ask - how did this important event go? And at the same time, it is very clear that before this event or, more importantly, during its call it is not necessary at all - you will drive a man from the mood, lose all words and get confused.

Therefore, listen not only to your heart, which requires you to hear his voice 24 hours a day, but also to common sense, which will not allow you to become an obsession for your man.