So, how to determine: are your young people reliable? To begin with, you need to think. What do we mean by "reliable"? When you are young, life always seems brighter, colorful and carefree, but. Over time, when everyday wisdom comes, many people with horror realize the mistakes of youth, for which they now pay with unhappy marriages and shattered nerves. That is why it is better in young years to immediately soberly assess the situation and determine how responsible your guy is and what can be expected of him in the future.
So, what is necessary for every young family? In addition to romance and love, this, of course, housing. In the modern world, it is not so easy to acquire your apartment. And not everyone will agree to live with their parents. That's why you need to immediately determine whether your boyfriend is able to pay rent. It should be noted right away that this does not mean at all that a guy should have a lot of money, but you will not do anything. In fact, as far as it is reliable, it is determined, first of all, at will to learn. Get a good profession and find a well-paid job. Only an ambitious guy will later be able to properly provide for his family, and not starve in a cold apartment. If you see that even while a student your loved one is trying to work somewhere, he tries to find an opportunity for himself in his student years to get a decent job, can provide a normal life at least for himself, then he can already be called sufficiently reliable for living together .
In addition, a reliable young man will never abuse alcohol. Of course, this does not mean that he is completely non-drinker. Rather, it says that the guy always knows the measure and will not spend extra money. Such a young man is clearly divided, how much you can spend on leisure and entertainment, and how much you need to leave for paying for utilities, renting a house, buying food and so on.
Of course, one more sign of reliability is the ability to stand up for oneself and for a loved one. It is not necessary that a young man be a bodybuilder and wave his fists at every corner. But, nevertheless, if you are scared to walk with him on dark alleys and from one light stroke his ribs are already breaking, it is worthwhile to think about whether he will be able to protect his family in case of any trouble.
Women most of all trust those men who always know how to navigate the situation and take responsibility. This is the next sign of reliability. Anyone, even the strongest and wisest lady, wants to feel fragile and gentle, relax from all problems, and at the same time be sure that someone will be able to solve her problems one hundred percent. Men who think and say more than they do, are not reliable enough for a serious relationship. And this is not always their fault. The reason for this can be complexes, the nature of the character and much more. Here the girl herself needs to decide whether she wants to be next to such a person.
Still reliability is almost always, is a synonym of responsibility. A young man who pretends to be called reliable, will never be late for meetings, forget about his promises, ignore requests and abstract from the world, instead of making a decision. A reliable guy can help himself and others, correctly allocate time and never forget about this promise. If your young man often forgets to do what he has to, and if there is a conflict of interest he simply disappears, it is worthwhile to seriously consider his responsibility. By the way, this behavior does not always mean bad character and negative attitude towards oneself. But almost always it means weakness of the person and inability to take responsibility for actions and decisions.
By the way, it is responsibility and serious attitude to some aspects of life that play a very important role for many girls. The fact is that in this case, subconsciously, we think what kind of father this person will become for our children? Will he be able to take care of the child, teach him everything he needs, properly educate and invest his soul. If a woman does not have this feeling, no matter how strong love is, it is better not to associate her life with such a guy, because feelings will quickly break down into scandals arising from the reasons for his irresponsibility and careless attitude to life.
Of course, every girl has the right to decide what kind of young man she wants to tie her destiny with. There are strong women who understand that a loved one is irresponsible, but they are ready to put up with it and solve all problems independently, if only he loved, valued and was close. If you belong to this category, then do not worry if your boyfriend does not go through many points. But still you need to honestly answer yourself whether or not you can go through with such a person through your whole life.
Well, if you want to have a defender next to you, the real head of the family who will take all the responsible decisions, then realizing that the guy who is next to you is not at all reliable, it's better to break off the relationship in time or to try to make him change for the better.