Each of the solutions has both pluses and minuses. How to teach a baby to a separate sleeping place, find out in the article on the topic "How to teach a child to sleep separately from their parents."
Together or apart?
A joint sleep with a crumb gives everyone less anxiety. Adults do not have to get up whenever you need to feed, change, or just hug and comfort the little one. Parents get better sleep, less tired. And the baby's physical contact with his mother, her touch, warmth, smell, the usual rhythm of the heart give a sense of security, security and the durability of his world. These moments, to some extent, do not have enough children and mothers, who from the first days after returning from the maternity home sleep separately. However, the children do not have to wean from excessive attachment to their parents. But sleeping at the side of Mom sooner or later pass a difficult period of separation. For two-year-old crumbs (approximately at this age and the question of sleeping in a separate bed rises), this is a serious enough life change.
So that she does not become too strong for him, you need your support and calm attitude to what is happening. Therefore, from the outset, do not allow two basic mistakes, typical in this difficult period. Do not worry about the baby in advance, do not dramatize your "parting", do not torture yourself with fears about how bad it will be without mom. You do not commit any betrayal and do not leave anyone in a helpless state. Understand, everything should develop in its own way and in its time! A good sleep is not parting, but a wonderful journey. So, your task is to learn how to equip a youngster to the place where dream dreams await him. Be attentive to possible anxiety crumbs. He cries, clings to you and never wants to go to his wonderful new bedchamber? Scream, punish, leave one. Kroha often has nightmares, he is afraid of something incomprehensible, does not want to remain in the room, even if there is a light on there? Make an appointment with a psychologist, he will help the child get rid of fears, say, nothing terrible, will get used - not the best decision. This can lead to increased nervousness of the baby, cause him depression, sometimes even a poor appetite, constant tearfulness, loss of interest in toys. Therefore, we need to pay attention to this issue.
We swim in a magic country
If you have any problems with sleeping and falling asleep, start with creating a small quiet and safe environment. At least an hour before bedtime. Take the child away from the TV, interrupt active exciting games. Read him a book, sit in an embrace. And to warn that today he will sleep in his own bed. Let the crumb express all your negative feelings about this prospect. He whines, says "I do not want", he holds his neck tight? Do not try to persuade "to be an adult", do not try to convince him that he "will like it himself", do not be angry and do not
shame for bad behavior. On the contrary, show understanding and sympathy: "I see, you do not want it, you are not used to sleeping like that. Yes, you are really upset, I feel very sorry for you, you really are grieving. " You will be surprised that it is these words that will quickly and comfortably effect on the baby soothing and reconciling. And the tears will stop. After that, firmly, but in a friendly manner, say: "You still need to sleep in your bed." The child will understand that you accept decisions, an adult, and such implicit pressure is not offensive to the crumb, does not emphasize his "subordinate" position. Invite the child to figure out how to make his transition into his crib and expecting sleep more pleasant. After all, a person, even the smallest, becomes much bolder and calmer when he feels himself not a victim of circumstances, but an active creator of the conditions of his life. Karapuz is embarrassed, does not know what they want from him? And you just arrived in time with the tips that will be accepted already without resistance. Let the son or daughter choose a toy so that, embracing, sleeping with her. Perhaps the little one will adjust the brightness of the night lamp, which will guard his sleep. He asks to move the crib to another place? Do not obstruct the permutation. Even if the new arrangement seems to be not the most convenient and reasonable.
Help me choose music for the night. Of course, you will see that it was calm, melodic and quiet. Before you finally leave the crumb of one in bed, suggest that you invent a fairy tale story that he wants to see. She will certainly dream to him, you just need to ask the Fairy of Sleep. It would be nice to buy such a Fairy in a toy store or make it with a grandmother. And give her to her baby on the first night of independent sleep when you prepare for this important moment. Do not forget that the child will need some time to consider it. Attach the Fairy to the head of the head and ask her to fulfill the "orders" of the little girl. Your calmness, confidence and positive attitude will undoubtedly be transmitted to the crumb. Two or three days, well, in extreme cases, a week of psychological support and support - and the crumb will gladly sleep in his bed, and fall asleep without tears and whims.
I was frightened
Often there are situations when the child's sleep is broken suddenly. Suddenly he wakes up with weeping in the middle of the night, screams, begins to fear his crib. The first and main rule for you remains unchanged: do not be scared yourself, do not back up your child's fears with your behavior. Behave calmly, affectionately. Now you need as much as possible physical contact. Pobobimalis? Do not hesitate, understand the causes of sleep disorders. It can be either elementary or rather complex. Think about it! An uncomfortable (tight or biting) pajamas, a hard or bumpy mattress can inconvenience. These things need to be replaced. The first signs of a physical illness (perspiration in the throat, headache) also affect sleep. They can be determined only by the pediatrician - visit the clinic with the baby. Perhaps the crumb scared something. If you were present at the same time, then you will not have to guess what the matter is, you will understand right away. But something could happen in your absence. Ask the husband, the grandmother, the nurse, observe, whether the babe the elder brother does not frighten the babe. The cause of fear should be worked out. A wonderful "healing remedy" will be a fairy tale here. Try it yourself. Let the magic hero happen something similar to what happened to the child: it scares the terrible dog (well, just a monster!) Or yells (and chases to grab) an angry giant uncle. Of course, in your tale everything will end safely. The pope-winner or the sorceress will come to the aid and cope with the villain. The true method of freeing oneself from fear is to paint together what the child is afraid of, transforming the image into something safe or pleasant. You can even thickly densely cover the monster with bright paint (it will never get out again). Is it easier on the soul? Of course, because what used to be so frightened, disappeared, evaporated. It turns out that you can safely go to your crib. Now we know how to teach a child to sleep separately from their parents.