Dipression in women in life is usually a fairly frequent condition. We like to fall into depression for any reason, more often - because of unrequited love, sometimes - because of its not ideality, because of unfaithful friends - so it is not enough, because of what! And each of us sees a way out of the dipressive state in something of his own. Someone immediately goes to a protracted raid on your favorite shops, because shopping - it's almost a panacea for all the women's troubles! Someone immediately calls his friends and goes into a spree for clubs and cafes. But such an action certainly does not answer the question of interest to us, how to behave when women have postpartum depression? After all, a young mother is not easy to climb, she is unlikely to walk in clubs. In any case, at first.
But the question here is not even how to behave to a woman, if after birth in a couple of months she suddenly had an acute depression and longing for her former life. The thing is, do her people see this condition close to her, in particular her husband? Does he notice the sadness of his wife, does she share it? Or, maybe, the husband went into the work with his head, so as not to dive into the world of diapers and raspashonok? This kind of behavior would in many ways spur the manifestation of depression in the wife.
Postpartum depression usually occurs when a new mom has time to think about her life. The first two or three months of this time she definitely will not, especially if the baby from childhood will suffer, say, so widespread intestinal colic. After all, there really is no time to sit down for a moment and think: what did they acquire and what did we lose with the birth of the crumbs?
But then the regime gets tired, my mother has free time for herself - and then the woman has the notorious postpartum depression. After all, the circle of her communication came down only to the child and her husband, who comes home tired and does not want to talk. How here not to become covered with dust, how here not to be homesick?
This is a problem for many young families who have early learned the taste of parenthood. They just do not know how to properly organize leisure with the child, they think that the baby is a heavy shack on the legs that do not allow you to go where you want.
Of course, the freedom of young parents is limited at times, and the more turbulent was their youth - the harder it is then to put up with the loss of freedom. However, we all know what we're on. In addition, children are not a burden, they can also have a great time!
So, a few tips for moms about how to behave, if it's hard on the heart?
First tip: friends
Maybe it's not friends that have forgotten you, as you yourself think, but have you forgotten about them? They do not call? This is natural - because friends do not know if your baby is sleeping, and probably afraid to disturb you. Therefore, call your friends yourself! Chat more, remember the old exploits, laugh! And even better - invite someone to visit, because the baby in such an early childhood sleeps a lot of time!
The second tip: romance with her husband
Do not forget the birth of a child that you and your husband are a pair of loving young people, and not cohabitants, so sometime in the evening when the baby is already sleeping, place candles in your room, prepare a light supper and arrange a real "prenatal" romance. The evening will end with a logical continuation, and the next morning you will wake up with a smile!
You're probably worried about the changed figure after birth. That is why it is so important for you to hear from your husband more tender affectionate words about love, and that promotes their appearance better than the night of passion?
Third Council: be mobile!
To sit at home with the baby at first, of course, have to. Special transportability will not be long. However, who will prevent you from taking a stroller and slowly go out with your loved one to take a walk in the evening city? While the child is sleeping, you can grumble on the bench, look at the night lights, once again confess to each other in love ... You can even wrap in a quiet quiet cafe and sit in it, as before.
And you can go with your husband to some amusement park - such certainly exists in any city! Carousels for crumbs, carousels for parents are a good reason to return to childhood and become even closer to your baby. In order not to ride one by one, take grandmothers and grandfathers with them, they will walk with the carriage in the park, until you receive your portion of adrenaline.
Tip Four: Companions Happily
Maybe, before, you did not have a single familiar couple who already became parents. Partly that's why you are so lonely and sad now, because none of your old friends just understand how you can talk about diapers, breastfeeding, "bunches" and "kaki" all evening. But if you had new friends who would gladly share their maternity experience - it would be much easier for you!
So, you can make similar acquaintances even in the park, where every evening you walk with your baby. Surely there are just as slowly walking the same moms, maybe some of them inspire you with sympathy even from a distance - that's with these girls and need to get acquainted. Young mothers always have something to talk about, so I think there will be no problems with the establishment of friendly relations.
There are also all sorts of forums where you can find real friends, fortunately - the same moms with crumbs on their hands. Together, you will be able to cope with postpartum depression - after all, a good company always chased away sadness and dispelled sad thoughts!
You can walk together in amusement parks, just visit each other, or even rip in the summer at the sea - believe me, an active holiday will not let you even think about such a phrase as "postpartum depression"! !! !!