Children are born with their own character, ambitions, demands. And therefore, you must clearly define all the priorities. Note that no matter how hard you try, you can not replace the child with peers. Even if you have the opportunity to leave your baby with your grandparents, by virtue of your age, they will not be able to entertain the child to give vent to his hyperactivity, and teach by modern techniques. Since everything has changed dramatically even from the time of our childhood, what can we say about the older generation.
If you see that your child is sociable , enjoys playing with children and the mind likes it, then you need to seriously think about familiarizing your child with a suitable society. If you still decided to give the child to a kindergarten, then you need to prepare the child gradually.
First, try to adhere to the regime , which will be in the kindergarten, at home. Breakfast, lunch, sleep at a certain time, a mid-day snack, and dinner is already like yours. This will help to better adapt to the garden. The next step, in advance, introduce the child to caregivers and nannies, so that on the first day the child does not get to people unfamiliar to him. When the time comes to visit the kindergarten, accustom the child gradually, the first days, leave for half an hour, listen to how the child behaves in the group, if there is no crying and whims, continue the visit, but every day prolong for ten minutes. If the child cries, then try to stay with him during this time, let him play, but at the same time he will know that my mother is nearby.
Gradually you can think up excuses to go away for a few minutes, well, for example, "I need to go for a minute, call, now I will come." Thus, the little child will gradually become accustomed to your absence. Of course, in this case, getting used to the garden will be delayed, but this is better than traumatizing the child's psyche.
There are many arguments in favor of kindergarten. First, the child learns to communicate, because the kindergarten is a model of society. She learns to determine with whom she wants to be friends, and who is just an acquaintance. Secondly, classes conducted by professional teachers, develop fine motor skills, attention, thinking. In the senior and preparatory groups, the children are already preparing for school, in a playful and accessible form they present a letter and a reading. It is known that children at that age really like to play, and to teach something, it is necessary to be interested, this is the work of teachers. The correct approach to each child, gives the result, a strong and formed personality.
Even if you yourself educate your child , there is no guarantee that you have chosen the right method of teaching. Mother knows what's best for a child, you say. Yes, any mother feels at a subconscious level the psychological state of the baby. But the fence against invisible "negative" factors, in this case, just egoism, is a conscious alienation from the world. In the future, the child will go into it not prepared and confused. I will always be there, again you will say. But you can not protect your child in school, at work. As much as you would not like it, but every child must pass the adaptation in the community on his own, and be sure to be able to stand up for oneself.