How to build relationships with former love

It is not strange, but it is proved by many that after the break-up no friendship with the former love can be. This is especially associated with painful and long-term breaks in relations, after which it is very difficult to maintain normal friendly relations. Well, if the parting was due to infidelity, most likely there will be a tinsel of hatred than friendship. What not to say, and any break in relations is most difficult for women to endure. All this is connected with the fact that the weaker sex by its inner nature is very vulnerable, romantic and gentle. For this reason, the overall picture of the relationship with the once-loving life can be built in two angles. The first includes a painful, it is possible to say, painful withdrawal with all the consequences and results that follow from it, where the words of charity and the wishes of "all the best" fly in a different meaning of the word. The second one is a pleasant and peaceful farewell in a friendly atmosphere with subsequent calls with congratulations for the holidays or the maintenance of relations and communication via the Internet, or, perhaps, rare meetings in real life. We offer you several useful recommendations that should help you in how to properly build relationships with former love and finally do not cripple them in an irreversible direction. So, former lovers, who are you to remain: enemies or friends? The rhetorical question that many want to hear is one exact answer!

We learn to forgive and apologize.

First of all, in order not to become real enemies after parting, you need to forgive yourself all the shortcomings and everything that your ex-boyfriend did and how much pain and suffering he brought to you (if there was one). Only by doing this, you can look at it again and communicate with it. This will be your first foundation on how to properly build relationships with former love. In the opinion of psychologists, in such a situation there is quite a good self-training, which can later help the girl overcome herself and change her attitude towards the former boyfriend. To do this, you need to take a chair and put it in the middle of the room so that it is in front of you. After that, no matter how ridiculous and paradoxical it may sound, it is necessary to present at this "empty place" exactly him, his former and once loved one with whom the parting happened. Then the script is very simple, you need to turn to your imaginary boyfriend and, without fear of this word, directly "in person" to tell him all the intimate and boiling that has accumulated in your soul. Well, then just ask for forgiveness from this "chair". This ridiculous and at the same time effective exercise very well helps to overcome in itself an insult and hatred. Plus, if necessary, say goodbye forever with your former love. By the way, believe it or not, but your ex-boyfriend can feel telepathically that you forgave him and as you will become much easier to build friendly relations with you.

Indifference is your main asset.

Remember that if you have a completely acceptable and friendly relationship after the break with a guy, it can affect the fact that your ex-loved one, at one point, will be able to realize that he still has the right to demand or ask from you that you fulfill his specific desires or whims. In this situation, it will be right if you just do not react to it at all. That's why the best way out at this moment will be your total indifference, which you must skillfully show your "friend". On his calls, answer with dryness in his voice, short phrases. But already when meeting face to face you need to be very correct, with all your appearance to show him that his problems and, even more so himself, you are absolutely not interested. And even on the contrary, they tire and strain excessively. So be ready and to such an expiration of circumstances and not to get trapped at the initial level of a new page of your relationship already called "friends", skillfully hint to the ex-beloved, so that he does not count on anything in the future. Of course, if you yourself do not want it!

Epistolary genre, as a way to properly build relationships.

There is another way to establish or improve relationships with love from your past. By the way, this option will also help plus everything completely and completely forget about all the grievances and misfortunes of the past. And for this, only a sheet of paper and a pen is needed for everything. Write a letter of gratitude to your ex-boyfriend. After that, read it aloud for yourself. Remember that all the thoughts of a person, set out on a white sheet of paper, have a clear and concrete meaning. There is not that blur that usually happens in your head, and causes a lot of chaotic assumptions and comparisons of fuzzy life facts. After the done "self-affirmation ritual," put this letter in an envelope and seal it. By the way, it's not necessary to run to the post office in order to reach your addressee, because you are the addressee of this letter. Burn it and business! The purpose of this letter is to easily transfer the parting with love and not to torture any more illusions to this person. Remember that it is illusions that can become real enemies of your friendly relations with a former guy. If you want to build correctly with a former or former relationship, throw them out of your head!

Only time has the right to show everything.

Sometimes it happens that right after the rupture of the relationship, people simply can not look at each other. But after a time when all the pain and resentment ceases, the once-in-love people have a desire to see again, in order to find out how once a beloved person lives now. In this situation, a good role played by the fact that if both of the ex-partners already have a new relationship. That's when you can build a real friendship. So, if at once you did not manage to leave a friendly relationship, wait a certain time, and you all have to get better. And maybe, if you can properly build a relationship with a former guy, you will remain excellent friends for life!