Some families use a very modified way of matchmaking, namely, the groom's parents come to visit the parents of the future daughter-in-law and just get acquainted. Where did all the skills in the matchmaking process go? Will old traditions disappear forever?
Still so fresh in the memory of the history of our grandmothers who were getting married. Here in Ukraine the matchmaking process was always with songs and dances. The matchmakers were dressed and cheerful, singing ditties and calling people. They sang laudatory songs about the future bridegroom, about his strength, skill and beauty, because only the decision of the bride's parents depended on the fate of the couple in love. If the groom did not like the bride's parents, they put a pumpkin before their threshold.
When a young man expressed a desire to marry, a meeting was held in his house, at which the father and mother and godparents were present. The son told about his coveted widow and asked for consent. If the girl liked her parents, then the godparents went to woo the bride. Rites for the wedding of the bride were very interesting and cheerful. The matchmakers started the conversation from afar, whatever to scare the "golden bird", gently hinted about the groom's feelings and that he could offer the material bride. If the conversation showed that the parents of the bride are positive, then the proposal of the hand and heart occurred. Probably all of you are well-known phrase with matchmaking: "You have goods, and we have a merchant". Well, if the groom liked the bride's parents, the matchmakers appointed the date of the wedding and the bride's bride.
The brides looked at were always exciting for a girl for marriage and for their parents. On the bridegroom, the groom's parents showed a bride, her virtues were extolled, and flaws were carefully concealed. Just the groom and parents were shown the dowry of the bride, the fruits of the work of the young girl. If the groom's parents were satisfied with the bridesmaids, then questions were raised about the upcoming wedding. As a rule, before the wedding, the parents of both sides should have become friends, because in the near future they will become relatives.
And in Russia long time matchmakers were matchmakers who were not relatives of the groom. The procedure was always in a friendly atmosphere, the matchmakers did not stay long, because they still had to inform the parents of the groom. There have been cases when the bride and groom lived in different cities and villages. It was difficult and exhausting to get there. And then the bride's parents came directly to the bride's wedding to get acquainted and solve all the problems not through third hands.
What a pity that for today the procedure of matchmaking is not so important. Many men quite long decide to marry their beloved woman. It is universally accepted to live in a civil marriage, these cohabitation young people are motivated by the need to find out what his half is in everyday life. However, everyday life breaks couples very often, because pastime with a loved one for 24 hours a day contributes to the manifestation of not only positive qualities, such as diligence, culinary abilities, but also negative ones, for example bad habits, untidiness, etc. But if a modern man still decides to bind himself by marriage to a woman, he does not consider it necessary to ask permission from the parents of either party. The offer of the hand and heart sounds only to the bride, and the ring, as a rule, is donated at the same moment. When parents find out about the upcoming wedding, they just have to be happy for their children and wait for the long-awaited grandchildren.